If you lost your sex drive after pregnancy - how long did it take to come back?

My baby is 6 months old and my sex drive has decreased because I am so tired! Also, I feel irritated a lot. I can't blame it on hormonal changes at this point, I don't think, although I am breastfeeding, so who knows?

Most people I know have had a decreased libido since their baby was born due to factors such as being unhappy with their own body, or having their intimacy needs satisfied by their baby's love. Mostly, it's because new mommies are just tired all the time and maybe a little irritated with their husbands.

Try not to refuse your husband though. The best advice someone even gave me is "Don't forget about your husband." Talk to him about what's going on with you. I know this sounds unspontaneous but give him suggestions like, "I'd rather do it in the afternoons instaed of in the mornings when I'm trying to catch some extra z's."

I'm sure he'll understand if you're not the wild child you once were, but if you completely reject him, he will resent that. The baby will grow up and things will probably get steamier again, but for now just put effort into it. If not for your own pleasure, do it for your marriage (and I'm sure you'll enjoy it too).

If it gets really bad, talk to your doctor or a therapist. Just don't deny your husband for too long!

My sex drive dramatically INCREASED after I had my son. I remember being "in the mood" while I recovered in the hospital. Once my bleeding stopped, we couldn't stop having sex. It actually freaked out my husband a bit and he'd be freaked that he'd actually turn me down.

This was obviously do to hormones and what not and now two years later I'm back to my normal "once a while" self.

If you're breastfeeding, your sex drive will go down.

If you're tired, your sex drive will go down.

In order for you to get back into your sex life, you'll have to start having sex. Simple as that. Tell your husband to "work with you". Spend a day together without the baby around and establish that "couples bond". This bond usually takes a back seat when a baby comes along and pretty much takes over everything else.

Set a day, bond with your husband in a non sexual way and emotional intimacy will lead to physical intimacy.

The lack of sex drive will only get worse if you don't have sex. You need to start off somewhere to get your body going again.

Good luck and make the effort even if you don't feel like it, It just means you'll have to work a bit harder to get yourself in the mood.

My baby is 6 mo and the drive comes and goes. I am mostly too tired or too worried about waking the baby. I also am not loving my body so much after birthing a 10 lb baby :(. Regardless, I agree with many others - you have to try it. You may not be really into sex, but it is an important part of your marriage and one of the ways men find closeness to their wives.

You know there are so many MORE factors than just hormones that I don't think alot of women consider, or maybe just don't talk about.

I had a decreased sex drive due to the fact that I just uprooted my individuality for 9 months, carried a child, labored through hell to get her out, brought her home adn hse has been on my boobie all day or I am wiping her up. Plus doing laundry, chores, errands, bills adn trying to figure out what comes next. So the thought of my husband putting his penis in me with even a slight risk of me having to go through THAT whole thing again, completely turned me off.

Then there was the actual sex part- this is graphic but you asked- My husband and I are very "powerful" in bed, we rarely "make love" we very much lust after eachother in every room.... with that said it is VERY difficult for me to change my mentality from momma to daddy's little toy and then back to momma without feeling this overwhelming dirtiness!

So what we did: Our daughter is 5 months old and we have raunchy sex as often as possible and our LO is taken care of even better now I think!

I sat my husband down and said look, you doing the dishes is like ecstasy for me, you taking out the diaper genie without having me ask you, is an orgasm in itself. You not fondling my boobs, our daughters food supply is so damn respectful that after I feed her, I'll wash em up and you can have a hay day!

I had to give my husband "daddy bux" so those were when he could help me out- chores, errands, Sophies bath time, whatever he would get little bux to use later, it works cause he gets so excited to help with everything now and because he is I am so excited to finally want sex again!

We are on BC, I'm bf-ing, so I had to change my mind set a little bit, and so did he, for us it all works out great, and sometimes he just does the chores without wanting to cash in his daddy bux which make our house feel very fair on both sides :)

After Pregnancy, you should wait couple of months. 4.5 months after your baby was born is more than enough to do back your own thing. It all depends if you are feeling comfortable anymore. The best way to get your sex drive back to the max is by doing it again. The first time you do it again will trigger it back up.

Well maybe you should talk to your husband. And let him do the work. Have a long and nice foreplay, kiss and touch each other. And then have sex, ones you had it your drive will come back.

i also lost my sex drive and my hubby gets pissed about that.. but its no my fault i get tired from work and then i still have to take care of the baby... so we try to do it but i give up sometimes.. im suggestion you should foreplay before you do it.. it works for me

some don't get it back until 6 months or later, for me though we were back at it as soon as I got the all clear at my 6 weeks check up.

be very careful .... after my children where born , my sex drive never returned and my kids are teens now........ see your doctor