14 depressed, no where to turn, help please, im sure you will find my story interesting?

dude, that's really a lot for a 14 year old. dude, your brother is not you. you've got yourself some of the stuff (sleeper)best sellers are made of. considering the news report(s) you wouldn't even necessarily have to change the names. lol. you even write it well here. your mom is great -i got that from you - you've got a best friend dad and an aunt you can always call. i'm sorry about your dog. that's an Auld Lang Syne year gone now. you sound like you love your nut brother enough to be tough on him for his own good. he will come to terms with what gets him acting that way. it doesn't especially sound like competition, it in fact sounds like you All just wanna see dad. OK, at home. (like the rest of you are) by the time you finish reading this you should no longer be concerned w/a cheating girlfriend ya 14 year old. (lol ?) you may even have room in you for a new buddy. i'm not at all trying to be aloof about your last year, but you just might have something in you that can Help make it all better this year and the next(s) i've reread your intersting story several times during this reply and i'm wondering if you already know this much man. as for alateen and it helping a lot, you do what works. stop watching tv especially the cops shows. according to JSpringer, when it comes on in reruns, a million texts will remind you anyway.

Well, life's crazy like that. =)

We all have our scars and these are just your scars. We all learn to deal with them - in our own way. That's what life's about, learning to deal with our overwhelming urge for escapism. Your brother is just choosing drugs (shoplifting, and possibly some self injury) to deal with his life. Some people choose to cope with those things rather than other legal/'healthy' methods. Even if your brother had the best childhood, things can always go bad. He's also at an age where experimenting is inevitable. Given he's taking it a bit too far, he may just grow out of it. Shop lifting, drugs, jail, etc. are all things I deal with on a daily basis. I can assure you that he's not too proud of it but the only thing you can do is talk to him about what he does. If he doesn't want to stop using or stop jacking stuff from stores (and getting caught) then you've done all you can do. You can't live his life for him.

You'll be okay. =) Just take it a day at a time. The most important thing in your life is the decisions you make. Although, the decisions other people make affect you, they aren't the most important ones in your world. ^_-

Clearly you are not ready to be in a relationship, it may seem to make it better for you but it doesn't help you find yourself because you have a crutch, as well as it brings the other person down. Although it is difficult your family can work out the situation with your brother he needs medical attention and support, be there for him but it is a FACT you can't help him alone, and if you think you can you will most likely loose a family member, or watch them get worse and you don't want that on your head, its a huge burden. You need to get some space go to your aunts or a friends house for as long as possible. Get your head together and prioritize what you can and cannot work on. Focus on you and getting better so you will be able to in the future be in a positive relationship where the giving goes both ways. While you are focusing on all this around you you cannot help you are loosing sight of your future. Make sure your brother gets medical help and support, I tried support only and kept my best friends troubles secret and now he is gone, the untrained person can only do so much. Good luck with your life and getting it together and looking forward, only when you can truly take care of yourself can you truly support a loved one.

well good thing it is 2010 now. Back in 2004 i had a pretty tough year when my wife was raped. (that was before the marriage). Nightmares, scars, wishing i could have done something, seeing the kid out in public, being told by the police to get over it (because his dad was a cop). It sucked but time will make it easier to handle. It will never get rid of the scars but it will make it more dealable. It sounds like for you things are looking up because your brother is getting better. And is your mom really clinically bi-polar or just a woman? as for the girl... don't worry about her even if you made it to 2 years it would have ended for one reason or another. She is probably just a confused whore who wants to be cool.

Forget your girlfriend. If she can't be faithful to you she isn't even worth the tears, move on. As for your brother. It will take a long time to forgive and forget. You'll always be a little cautious around him. But all you can do about it slowly try to forgive him. Relate to what he was going through. Understand that he was out of control a the time and it was the pills talking, not him. Speak with your mother about how you're handling the situation and see if talking with her will help at all. Maybe speak with your father about it? Being open about things is always the best way to go. Maybe do some family counseling?

I doubt this will help much at all.. but hun your fourteen just be care free, i know its hard sometimes but just put all your problems behind you and be a kid.Singing is the only reason i get up in the morning, not because of my boyfriend or friends but something as simple as that. something i can control and do whenever feel. Whenever i'm feeling down or sad or something bad happens i just throw all my heart into the piece i'm working on. And when you finally put all your being into something you enjoy great things can come out of it. or like last summer, i was fifteen and i volunteered at a hospital the whole summer. it makes you feel good from the inside out to help someone else, and to see the joyi put on some of the patients faces just showing i care can best the best feeling in the word.. it makes you feel good all over. So all i'm saying is do something you enjoy and put your whole heart in it. mine is singing and helping people its my whole being. and one other thing stay positive even when things are rough.. it really helps. :) hope this helps a little.

Shes an a**hole better girls will come your 14 you have your whole life ahead of you. As for your family situation I'm sorry to hear that... The way i dealt with depression was by starting to do things i enjoyed and hanged around positive friends. It takes time to get over, but if your on the verge of doing something crazy maybe you should go talk to a therapist that helps too. As for her she doesn't need to be a part of your problems if you didn't already break up with her.

Tough life kid. My life has been similarly full of drama and disapointments. Make sure you surround yourself with people you love, and keep a cool head about everything. Try putting your focus on something besides all the drama and problems. Sometimes there isnt a lot in your control, but eventually it will work itself out. Sometimes when it rains, it poors. And sometimes you have to hit rock bottom before things start looking up. There is nothing you cant get through, and once you get through it, it makes you a stronger person. Keep your head up, and ur heart open.

Do what you are doing! You are living life and talking it out! Girls come and go, and at least your brother is fine now. I've seen too many people die from drugs. "If the game of life was easy, we'd all have a college degree, car insurance, and our job would be police officer so we'd all get money when someone spun a 10."

Well, it sounds like people around you are having problems and not yourself necessarily.

You need to make sure you do not take up offences of anyone in your family.

Make new friends to talk to and learn from the lessons of 2009.

You just need to take a new leash on life and start doing what you've wanted to do etc.

There's no point looking at things on the larger scale, just look and see yourself.