Why is it so hard for women to take the first step?

Yo dawg. It's the same for both sexes. Some have the guts. Others don't. Silly guy.

I completely understand with where you're coming from - I've yelled at my friends countless times for complaining that the guy they like don't ask them out. I think many people still believe that it's the guy's responsibility to make the first step, because that has been the traditional way for so long and I agree that it is time for this to change.

However, I don't believe that you can say "we accept the responsibility for everything". Yes, if someone makes up a rumor about that, or if under-age people get caught, sometimes they say they were raped. I think this is awful and shows that the girl involved is a *****, but also it seems that you should only have sex if you trust the other person, so although I don't believe it is fair, I still don't believe you are ENTIRELY faultless. (Mainly faultless but still why would you sleep with someone like that?) Anyway that's not really my point because I do think it is unfair when that happens. However women are the ones that can get pregnant and quite often the male will leave them to raise the child by themselves in this case. (I know, the woman is equally at fault, but it shouldn't be left with her to shoulder the burden.)

And in terms of reputation - women have the pressure to be virgins until they get married, or at least to only have one partner, where as men can have several at one time. Men are "players" which is "cool". Women are "sluts" - how is this fair? Plus (slightly off topic but not really) when it is really hot, women still have to wear tops whereas men are allowed to take them off. Even when we are feeding babies we still aren't allowed to show any breast area in public. This isn't fair or just.

Basically, I know what you are saying, and women should also have to ask people out (although I think men should do the proposing :P). But I don't believe you are entirely fair in saying that men take all the responsibility.

I actually don't know. I think of this question all the time as well. If anything it shouldn't always be on the guy to make the first move. It should take turns. And yeah! Who wouldn't be impressed by a girl going up and making the first move. That's a huge compliment since girls normally just sit there. Supposedly. When I asked a girl about this before. She said that guys dont like girls that make the first move. Makes them seem to come on too strong. Which isnt true at all. Its a predicament indeed.

Its about tradition. Its just always been that way, and women expect it not to change. Although the past few years the percentage of women making the first move has been going up.

wow i luaghed alot reading this thanx for that! but i know i know girls should make the first move i try and tell my freinds and other girls to do the same cause guys like not haveing to do it all the time so im trying and other girls dont because there scared too and some even think its the guys job but its not trust me i understand and am trying to help by spreading the word to othere chicks to MAKE THE FIRST MOVE! k? thanx =D

its called having balls...grow a pair and stop acting like a big baby. You makin us look bad in front of the females! lol

i get turned off when guys don't have enough confidence or guts to ask me. my job is to let them know that im interested in them so they will have the confidence boost to ask me out.

even with the feminist movement and women having power and everything...it's still OUR job to protect...i don't care what girls have to say, this is my belief and it follows evolution, i think anyways...is that correct? ya i think so. call me egotistical call me whatever you want.