Why do women assume that you are shallow if you actually value looks?

I don't consider someone shallow unless they have a ridiculous standard. Let's face it... We're not going date someone we don't find at least a little physically attractive.

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Most women KNOW what the difference between being shallow, and having preferences is.

Men are generally more visually oriented than women are, so they tend to only want to date beautiful women, regardless of whether or not they have much to offer as human beings.

Women, on the other hand, are more psychological and emotional, so we tend to value the connection that we have with a person, and their personality, more than we do their looks. So for us, a chubby guy isn't a big deal as long as we have a connection with him.

Now, some women just can't understand this, and they think that men are 'shallow' because most of them wouldn't date an overweight girl. Yes, they are 'shallow' in the sense that they are more concerned with outward appearance more so than women are, but for them, it's just a reality.

So it depends on the perspective.

Men have a different definition of 'shallow' and they tend to think that 'shallow' is a term used to identify materialistic women who only date men for money and things.

So each gender has a different view of the word, and it's hard to reconcile those subjective views in an objective debate about it.

Everyone has preferences, and what you listed about the women dating a guy that is fun as being shallow, well, it just isn't. Because yeah, she may want the guy to be a challenge, but she'll probably also want other things from him as well, that are more important to her than that.

'shallow' means that you are only concerned with what is on the surface of a person, and you are incapable of looking beyond the surface to see the depths of people.

Basically....you may want to pick up a dictionary. That probably would have been easier for you than using yahoo answers;)

Wow...BREATHE. You're so angry you're almost incoherent. And homophobic. To the homosexual population...jesus way to generalize. Being a lesbian is an orientation--NOT a personality type. OH, and another thing hetero women don't seem to get----just because I'm gay DOESN'T mean I automatically like the sight of your naked body. Do you like every man you see naked even if he's considered 'good-looking'? NO. Well neither do I. I'M TIRED OF THE HETERO POPULATION THINKING ALL GAY PEOPLE AUTOMATICALLY WANT TO HUMP EVERY NAKED BODY THEY SEE....WE'RE JUST LIKE YOU FOR GOODNESS SAKES. I'm sorry you ran into some bitchy lesbians---but realize that's their individual personality---not because they're gay. You're gonna meet some assholes who are gonna give you a hard time about your body/looks--some are heterosexual men, others are gay women... get used to it. And stop generalizing. And you're right---you have the right to look good for just yourself. Now, if you're uncomfortable with being around other naked women or being naked it DOES NOT mean you're gay. Now if you liked to look at women in a sexual way or had sexual thoughts about women---then yes, you'd be gay. Otherwise--no. It could be simply you aren't comfortable around nakedness period. Although it could also be some homophobia as well--which, seems likely given the overtone of your question.

Because some girls try to convince themselves looks don't matter...when most people know they do (to some more than others). What's the chance of intimacy in a relationship with someone you're not physically attracted to at all?

Looks matter to me, but what I find appealing may be different than what other women find appealing. Also, confidence and chemistry play a part. I've found myself very attracted to some men who were not good looking (I wouldn't give a 2nd glance on the street) but something about them appealed to me, once I got to know them just a little bit.

Attraction needs to be there, and looks is often a part of that. Why date someone we aren't attracted to? ☺♥☻

its not shallow as long as you are looking for more than just looks too.

if you were to say, the only thing i want in a girl is a hot body and a pretty face, that would be shallow, But if you list it among other things you are looking for (eg sense of humor, intelligence, kindness) than it wouldnt be shallow.

PS its usually the ugly ones who say its shallow :)

because they like to know that you just don't like them for their looks. you should tell them about their looks only when they ask about it, or when they're dressed up. women who date guys who are fun or a challenge is not shallow because they date them for them. not the outside of them.

Because women are more then just for looks you soon to be user... Going off of looks is fine but, if thats your ONLY preference your pretty shallow.

i'm a firm believer in anyone who says looks don't matter - is a liar.

everyone cares.

but, if it plays the biggest role in what you're looking for... then it's a problem.

cause it makes them feel deep...

it's the passive aggressive nature of girls to find every possible flaw, and create problems where there are none.

never say u care about their looks to a girl cuz thats mean and theyll think if they become ugly youll dump their *** :)