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Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsSingles & Dating · 1 decade ago

The Pros and Cons of moving in with a guy? Need some Advice with this one! :)?

I've been seeing a guy for about 2 and 1/2 years now. I would call our relationship odd considering that we have never tagged ourselves a couple yet it pretty much seems like we are. We talk everyday, make plans to see each other (he actually lives a couple hours with me) etc. We have dated briefly off and on in the past and he has even told me in points in the past that "he wasn't interested in me" but yet he can never quite seem to let go. We are always in constant communication and he's actually a great friend of mine. Sorry this sounds all complicated. Anyhow, I think he's had some sort of epiphany because when I saw him over Thanksgiving break he asked me to move in with him! (I'm almost done with graduate school.) I was shocked because I suppose this is something that I wasn't expecting at all. I do love him a lot and just wondering what you guys think of the situation and what I should do. Thanks

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  • 1 decade ago
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    I wouldn't move in with a man that could not define our relationship. If he does not claim you as a couple don't move into his house!!!

  • Thomas
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    its sound very fishy too me. I have a few question to ask you. 1) is he working? 2) what is your major? 3) do you have a job line up after you graduate? 4) did you question him why he ask you after he said that he is not interesting in you in the past.

    listen to yourself and don't make a big mistake by moving in with the guy. 1) he stated that he wasn't interest in you. bottom line he still not interest in you. 2) you only know him for 2 and 1/2yrs off and on. this kind of off and on kinship is not good enough to move in with anyone because it only show that he is unstable in a relationship. 3) just because you feel this way about him and he really didn't express the same, this is a huge mistake to believe that he do because he ask you to move in with him. don't let your on emotion get into your way, this is a common mistakes that many of us have made and end up being bitter toward the person and ideal of relationship. because we refuse to notice the warning sign that was waving in right in front of our face. 4) he sound like he want to used you and that is plain and simple that I can put it. so don't move in with him, but if you do just remember you made that choice and full aware that he really not interesting in you in the first place.

  • 1 decade ago

    you don't sound like boyfriend and girlfriend , but if you want to live together it is a good way to save money and if it doesnt work out you just move away no big deal.

    i have lived with this girl i was dating 14 years ago for 14 years and things are pretty good , we are a couple but we are also independant.

    i mean marriage is what? a piece of paper that most people screw up. just do what feels right for you.

  • ?
    Lv 4
    5 years ago

    experts: The the two understand what they want in life, maximum adult adult males our age those days nonetheless have not got their priorities on objective and and nonetheless do no longer understand what they want out of life. there is likewise the expertise the guy has, such as you stated he's been with the aid of alot so with that stated he has found out how he could desire to be dealt with so he will maximum probable manage her with the honour he needs, he owns his very own residence and a stable good activity, the guy is definitely off. CONS: twenty years is a great age difference, in his subject being 40 3 years previous he will possibly no longer desire to pass out and have exciting up on your chum. She remains 23 years previous, she is youthful! and what she desires good now's to delight in her toddlers and not have a guy twenty years her senior save her locked down. somewhat it extremely relies upon on her heart, if she is responsive to that she will love him and that he could make her chuffed, then age extremely does not depend. yet whilst it somewhat is in basic terms a flirtation and not something extra, i propose to maintain it as friends.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    You will learn a lot of unpleasing things about us guys.

    I say no to this because you shall have a lot of heartache that will follow your moving in.

    Also if he has not proposed to you in 2 and a 1/2 years it isn't going to really going to be pretty.

    Trust me! DO NOT DO IT!

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Pros: Try it before you buy it.

    Cons: Too many to say, but some may be: he's not your husband, and owes you nothing in the event that you two split up and he leaves you with the rent bill.

    You will put up with all his annoying habits...good luck.

  • renee
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    ive ben living with my boy friend four years now its wonder full he works third shift four days a week we have a Very understanding and honest relationship we are open with one another we met on live links first off be honest and open and set cleaning rules down he dose half you do half its a fifty fifty relationship !!!!!!!!!

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Move in together but I would keep separate bedrooms. That way you each have your own space. Would he make a good flatmate ?

  • 1 decade ago

    dont do it. Leave it until marriage. You will regret it.

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