Should I suggest a break?

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Okay short version.

I have been with a guy for 9 months. We were getting on so well. I thought i was falling for him. He isnt very good on expreseeing his feelings but I think he was happy and thought we were getting on great too!
However, now things are starting to change and go wierd! He is quite attentive. Tries to get hold of me and sometimes he isnt and doesnt return my txts calls.

I have started getting feeling for someone else and this is making me question my feelings for my boyfriend.

Do you think I should suggest a break so I can sort my head out.
I have loads of stuff going on at home as well and am really struggling.

* Just so you know I have no intention on persuing any relationship with the person I have started to have feelings for.

HELP..
Juliet x

? · Accepted Answer

your young you have your own mind let him down gently and have a break sometimes it works.

originata · Answer

I don't see the point of "taking breaks" unless you're married or have been in a very long relationship, but it's only been 9 months and it's not worth wasting anymore time with all of this if you are losing interest in him.  Forget about the other guy for now; if he weren't in the picture would you still want to distance yourself from your bf? If so, end it, then start thinking about other guys. Only focus on how you feel about and whether the relationship with your bf is worth saving. If you start thinking about other guys, you'll confuse yourself and question your choices. There is always going to be another guy you'll be attracted to.

Hunter J · Answer

How about tell him these things?  Obviously not the part about you having feelings but ask him why he doesn't return your texts or phone calls.  Ask him if he is still into the relationship and if not maybe you guys aren't right for each other.  Communication is key.  On a side note...feelings come and go.  A strong relationship is built on trust and commitment.  Love is a choice.

TakeMeDown · Answer

I think you should talk it over with him and ask him what has changed. 
If you really feel you have other feelings make sure you go on a break or not date at all because no one wants to get cheated on.

Chris · Answer

In my opinion, this relationship is over.  A break means break up.  I've never met anyone who took a "break" and then later got back with this person.  And you really want to be with the person you have developed feelings for otherwise you wouldn't be considering a "break".  Just get it over with.  And learn to spell correctly.

Chad · Answer

no "breaks" please...
its so hard for a guy to understand that, trust me i was supposed to be on one and i just fd up the whole situation
just break up with him and take some time for your self no point in sugar coating it.

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