Life problems Ramadan brothers and sisters....long,but please read!?

That really was big …

If you were not 13 years I would not have answered ( or even read the question)

Ok here …

There are approximately 20 points in your question … (I think)

Lets start …

1.Firstly, 13 years old … may Allah reward you for your inclination towards islam.

2. do not hate the state (place) you live in. Listen, you are a practicing Muslimah. What ever you do is not what you do anymore, it is what islam is doing… if you do something bad people say Muslim women are bad … ok?

Love your state (or atleast try)

And actually it is a benefit for you … (How? see the next point)

3. There are no muslims there? MASHALLAH. Imagine, you get to spread islam to almost all the people you meet … Just meet them and ask them about their religion – Christianity? … prepare yourself about the Christian arguments about islam (read books by ahmad deedat etc) and spread islam.

Benefits – i. you will make friends

ii. You are spreading islam

iii. You are training yourself to speak to people

4. Do not worry about the language. I swear by Allah you are given a virtue if you can speak Arabic … I am dying here to learn Arabic, and we are taking classes for girls here to teach them Arabic (So that we can understand the Quran) you have been given a blessing from Allah. DO not thing it is not useful just because you get no one to talk … If you get bored then make some girl friends online (there are many Islamic forums … they will also speak Arabic) (but be careful many forums are deviant also.)

5. Do not worry about your cousins.

The only thing which increases or decreases the rank in the sight of Allah is “Taqwah”. You know the meaning of it right … It means God-consciousness.

You are alone, but remember, the heart remembers Allah when it is alone. May be Allah wants you to remember him more.

6. I was almost laughing when you said “the girls at mosque wear hijab "full-time"... I only wear it "part-time" for Masjid” :) :) :))

LOL

Again I think this is a very good enthusiasm you have, towards following Islam. I know of several friends of mine who have the same problem. My friends want to keep a beard but they shave it as their parents do not allow them.

All that I can say you is just be patient.

Your mother is Good or bad I will tell that later, but remember – Be patient with your parents.

Reaching the age of puberty, the children are arrogant, disturbed, frustrated and lost.

This is one of the reason you asked such a lengthy question and I do not thing much people will pay suck attention to your question as in this age it is normal. (no doubt few other girls will be interested)

Let anything happen, remember this - Your parents love you.

SO if mom says no hijab – try explaining her every time (without losing hope, kindly)

One day she will allow you. And if she does not then we hope Allah will forgive you. and give you a chance to wear it.

Hijab does apply to women of U.S but your mom does not understand it. I can advice you that just have this firm intention in your heat that whenever Allah gives you an opportunity then wear your hijab, but if you are forced then also follow your parents.

Again whenever you get a chance, just follow it… Ok? And do not loose hope.

7. “Another thing, all the girls at my school are just backstabbing, boy-crazy …”

of course, do you think you will find girls with similar thinking in there. we are (atleast i am) shocked myself seeing your enthusiasm at this age ... MASHALLAH. No one will think like you. So what do you do, search. Search if you can get one, if you can’t then just be superficial (not best) friends with some.

and never spend much time with them as they will spoil your mentality.

As I told already, this age will take a person to a good path or an evil one. Always make dua.

As I told you, you can make online religious friends. I am like your elder brother, you will find other girls, you can talk to them…

Further think how many friends did Prophet Abraham had when he left the city? Not even one.

This will bring you closer to Allah. Do not worry. And try making Online Friends (Who are good and who’s “Aqeedah” is right)

8. And also stop being a sadistic girl. Allah is with you, you have the gift of Eeman, and you have knowledge of Islam. SO what if people do not understand you? (actually no one understands a teenager - especially a girl) But your case is a little different. So what, The people did not understand the prophets either.

Further your mom is just angry with you sometimes. Never take their taunts seriously. They Love You.

9. Your mom is not that bad. She is not that bad, she is not that bad.

Stop thinking that she is notorious.

Parents generally have a lot of problems. Financial problems, problems, with children and many many other problems. Just understand her and help her. Let her know that you are a good girl who would listen to her mom. May be she will allow you to wear hijab after getting impressed with you.

10. Forget what people think (cousins and friends) … just believe in Allah and be concerned about what Allah thinks.

11. Everybody’s mom dad argues, so do not worry.

It is a part of marriage to argue…

12. Marriage is a Sunnah. Further it helps a girl, or a boy to restrain from doing illegal and evil acts.

13. Do not get depressed … Allah will help you ...

May Allah give you patience

Alykum asalam wa ramatollhi wa barakatuhu

i can't wear hijab (Astaghfirullah) either and have my own problems with my mother and her side of the family..etc etc

Allah Subhanhu wa Ta'ala knows what is in your heart and your intentions sister.

dont get so caught up in hijab that you forget all other parts of your deen and iman. i know it is a huge and glaring thing - i want it so bad too but since u cant have it now - well either just put it on and deal with your mother nagging u for a week..or just wait and focus on other areas of your deen

your school situation is just a test.. i know you're alone,but know tehre is ALWAYS Allah Subhanhu wa Ta'ala

Read The Holy Qur'an - whenever i open it, Alhamdulillah a line that i read will just sink into my heart because it is so relevent to my situation at the time by the Will of Allah Subhanhu wa Ta'ala

seek help from Allah Subhanhu wa Ta'ala Insha'Allah. also at least you get to go to masjid - i've never been to a masjid in my life and dont ahve any Muslim friends either. remember sis: "verily, after hardship there comes ease" and "He does not put a burden on you greater than you can carry" - The Holy Qur'an

i'm not sure why it got deleted or if you deleted it but i had posted quite a long answer for a question you had asked before similar to this...basically

1) this is a test to strengthen your iman..remember there is an ayah like Allah Subhanhu wa Ta'ala will definitely test His believers

2) stay strong, seek help from Allah Subhanhu wa Ta'ala

im really tired, not much else i can say right now, but if you want msg me Insha'Allah =)

xoxo

Advice

1) friends -

- even i have the same problem at school and masjid. dont worry, people have become like this. you can still find good friends, i know i did. patience is the key and Dua and Salah.

- forget the girls at masjid. do not hate them but hate the sin they commit.

2) Clothes -

- buy some, talk to your mom with kindness and show her whatever you have and pair the clothes up. Like say, on monday i wear this (then get the pant and shirt and vest and undergarments, then bring the socks. pair these up, say to your mom this is for monday. and do this for each day and each time a new pant and shirt and undergarment to be picked. so your mom will realize you need some more clothes. remember BE KIND. do not even say 'uff'.

3) Reputation -

- Follow Islam and the Sunnah for sake of Allah, pleasure of Allah only.

see in the Sunnah, what is the behaviour Prophet Muhammad (saws) had when he was in public, how did He (saws) behave etc..

- Do not seek the pleasure of others but seek Allah's pleasure.

As long as the couple talk openly about any issue they face and settle it down, that would never be a problem. But the difference between a mother and a wife is so big that u can not compare the two. ANy man who wants to get married knows that things are not gonna be the same as they were when he was single. SO i do not see any problem with this change because it's part of life. For a marriage to succeed, the two couple should help each other, stand for each other, because marriage is not a one side relationship. Both sides are gonna give away and receive and come into terms concerning certain issues they may not agree upon, and life continue .... But also as long as Quran and Sunnah are part of the marital life, I believe any marriage would be successful. Peace and good luck for me to have a successful marriage with my unknown future wife!

as salaam alaykum sister,

wow, my mom tells me the same thing, I also live in southern state, Texas, to not wear it for safety. i asked her if i could wear it for school only, at least she said yeah but she says to be very careful and i am not allowed to wear it when i am out with the family, astaghfirullah.

i really don't know what to tell you, but really don't mind what people think (i too have no friends, lol, its ok though i've been alone all my life even though i have a large family[i even feel like an outsider to my family]). have my solidarity and don't let all this take a toll in you iman.

if you really want to wear the hijab do it when your mother doesnt see it,

its is bad not listening to your parents,

but your parents cant deny you something from deen, in this way you both please Allah and your mother.

try going on the net to find people to talk to, you seem like your pretty smart so you know what to say and what not and how to judge a person.

and you can mail me aswell to talk.

if anyone's to blame about getting you spoiled its your parent's, if they didnt want things for you to have they shouldnt have given it to you, if they did they shouldnt whine about it.

i thought the same as you, why get married it brings so much trouble.. i talked to my cousin about it, and he told me, that despite all this marriage is a beautifull thing and makes you whole as a person

i know this is short but you have too much going on too have answered in 1 answer

hope this will suffice though

Your question is kind of sad. I am sorry you live in Georgia, one of the worst state. The damn hicks and all. That ***** below who talks about Somalia is a hick. But I started laughing. This is funny to me. You are only 13 and you worry too much. No one has any manners at 13, I don't even have it at 21. Palestinians are special people and a special race. You should be proud.

salaam =)

smile! you still have your health, alhamdulillah..

things are tough now, but when you grow a little older insha'allah they'll get better, because you'll see things a little differently and would know how to deal with your mum a little better...

as for the hijab - i say wear it.

its fard in Islam, and the ONLY time we can go against our parents wishes is for the sake of Allah and Islam. so you have every right to wear your hijab =)

she will give in eventually!!

if you please your Lord, Allah will make things easier for you, insha'allah..

and dont EVER feel lonely..you always have Allah swt with you wherever whenever..plus 2 angels! =)

if you want to talk to you can email me... =)

may Allah make things easier for you, and guide you parents. Ameen

pray and make dua

these are way to garantee your dua:

http://www.saislam.co.za/index.php/submit-a-dua/2....

sorry..

i am a slow reader..

any way this is to long for me to read..