can not forgive him..........?

Fact is; he had a life before you as you did before him.

Now, you may not have had a relationship exactly like his because they are two different people.

You have got to get past this. It's silly. Really it is.

He found you, you found him and now you're together. It's almost as if you're trying to ambush your relationship?

What do you need to forgive him for? Having a life before you?

Or would you prefer that he keep things from you and then oooohh..maybe 10 years down the road you find out that he is cheating or something? I don't get it.

He loves you enough to open up and communicate. Geesh. Grow up

This issue is your own insecurity. I mean everyone has an ex bf or gf, and he wasn't with you then, so let it go. He is with you now and asking YOU to marry him...so he must like you better. The past is the past....can't be changed. You need to let this insecurity thing go, seek help if you need too....because I think it is great that your BF can open up too you....a major blessing, openness. But if he feels being too open hurts you, he will stop telling you everything....and that could create potential problems in the future!

I guess you have not had previous relationship? If you did then you've been "shared" too.

If you haven't been with anyone else, this would be a huge thing and a hard thing to get over. You would always have it in the back of your mind.

You'd have to come up with some way to accept it. If you can't, the relationship has to end. You have to find someone who hasn't been shared or just go share yourself for a while.

It all boils down to the level of maturity you are at.I do not doubt that you love this boy very much,or am I saying that you are an immature child.You just are not at a level that makes you marriage material.Stay single and these issues will resolve themselves.

you are normal, so don't think the way you feel (or thinking) is abnormal.

my next question would be...did you ask him to share this information with you? or did he just come out and explain his past?

reason is....I'm like you....I don't need to know a person past to be honest...so I really don't ask unless it's something that is just too mysterious about them to figure out on my own...reason is....I wouldn't want to hold their past against the current.

for example i've been divorced....immediately a woman would see that as a red flag against a guy....but after I explain the situation as to why i got divorced...I'm a "catch" all of a sudden and my "ex" is considered dumb for losing me.

there is a difference you see. If you are judging him on his past and not seeing him for the gentlemen he is today..it could be your loss...remember he is with YOU NOW....NOT HER.

There is nothing to forgive him for. It was before you were dating him, and I see nothing to indicate that he has lied to you or deceived you.

What is your problem exactly? He broke up with her. He's with you. Do you want him to be chained to a wall and whipped for having dated someone else before you?

How did you ever come up with the idea that you have to have a patent for a man? You need to seek professional help if you believe you need one.

It was before your relationship. Its not like he cheated on you or anything. Stop worrying about it and if its a big deal talk to him. There is nothing better than COMMUNICATION!!!