Serious advice, Thanks?

Wow, I really think it is a bad idea. He married you he committed to you, if he wasn't ready he should not have. Don't negotiate that with him, if he does it especially since you sound like deep down you really would not be okay with the idea than I say that would not make him a very nice person.

It would also likely cause tension and problems if you feel hurt about it.

Bottom line is if you can't trust him not to run around behind your back to the point where you consider letting him sleep around, than maybe there are other things you should consider.

If you are good enough for him , you are good enough for him, if you aren't why bother.

Do you trust him? Does he say he is happy being with you? Then don't invite trouble.

Okay, you and he both knew when you married he was a virgin. You CHOSE to marry still, he had a chance to 'sow his royal oats' before the big day and he didn't. No regrets...if you ALLOW him to cheat your opening the door for disaster! A marriage is not based on this, recite your vows again. You are all the experience he needs, do different things so he doesn't wonder. Different positions, toys, lingerie, candles, oils, lotions, books, movies...there is way too much stuff out there to be happy sexually with one another. If there is love there should be respect as well. Do NOT give him permission to cheat, what's to stop him from going back. If you live in fear that he will cheat, you need to see a doctor, you can't live that way.

Clearly this is a case of two people getting married way too young. I'm not pointing my finger at you; I got married when I was 20. I, myself often wondered what it would have been like to have more sexual experiences before marriage. However, the fact is that plenty of people get married as virgins, and have very happy marriages.

Just because he is saying these kinds of things to you doesn't necessarily mean he wants to experiment with other people. He's a guy, and guys hang a lot of self-worth on their level of skill in bed. He's just realizing that he's still got things to learn in that area.

Basically, you should do 2 things:

1. Talk to him! You guys are married, and the whole point is to share your lives. Ask him (without getting mad) why he says such things. What does he think he's missing out on?

2. Experiment and mix up your sexual routine. Sex should be anything but routine. Spice it up! If that means you play games with each other like hooking up (with each other) and going home for a pretend one night stand, do it...or whatever else would add excitement to your bedroom.

Yes you were too young, but we all know that and that's not the question. What is marriage to you both, you know? To me, a 32 year old female, it is sacred - two people who made a committment to each other and only each other. And people have the nerve to call that old-fashioned. So many people in today's society have thrown all morals and traditional vows down the drain and then wonder why the divorce rate is so high. "Open marriages" are not going to be healthy ones, that's a prescription for problems if you ask me. Good luck, I hope you all make the right decisions and live a happy life together!

I think if you let him have sex with another woman, you will regret it. I also think that if you open that can of worms, it could lead to "Well, I still need more experience; one other woman isn't enough." Or it could lead to an STD or pregnancy.

In all honesty, young marriages are really difficult, especially in situations like this. There is no good answer. He could leave you for reasons other than that. And if you think he's going to do it behind your back, the two of you need counseling. I would recommend that anyway, so you can explore these thoughts with a third party who is separate from the situation (but who also has the knowledge and experience of others to share with you).

Rather than letting him play the field with other women why don't you experiment with new things together? Half the fun of a good sex life is trying new things! My husband and I have learned that we have to keep trying new things, changing up the way we have sex to keep things interesting or our attentions do wander. If you need suggestions look at porn, use google, ask friends, and look at books. There are lots of different ways to spice up your sex life and may be what you need. Experience isn't gained just from sleeping around but also by trying new things! Good luck and I hope things work out!

Is his name Jorge...j/p he sounds just like my ex I've been in your shoes and sweetie you got options the good thing is you dont live with him which means its easier for you to walk away its hard 3 yrs is a long time but you can do it change your number stay with friends or family for awhile filing a police report is up to you its a good idea but it may not be the best thing to do that just may upset him more and may cause him to become more violent towards you you have to be strong and really want to leave him if not you'll run right back to him best if luck to you and um very sorry to hear this I made it and so can you you deserve better

I personally think that talking about everything is the best thing to do in this situation for the both of you. I would try to get him to open up about what things he would like to experience and if those things are something that you are open to doing then i believe that it might even bring you two closer. My wife and I talk quite frequently about different things that we can do to try and spice up our lives and try new things but we make sure that we are both comfortable with it. and no that doesn't include other people just private things between us. You are doing something that a lot of women cant do and that is try and see where he is coming from, and he should realize that when you talk to him about this and appreciate what you are willing to do for him and he should love you even more for that. I hope that i could have been of some help. good luck!!

I would advise against letting him go out and experience other women. The biggest thing I think you need to do is to have a talk. There's two things you want to figure out.

One is why is he telling you this? Is he telling you this because he wants permission to go out and sleep around with other women? Is there something about his sex life with you he is dissatisfied with? Is he concerned that he's not bringing pleasure to you because of a lack of experience?

The other is what does he want to do about it?

Lastly, he needs to know what kind of impact this kind of talk is having on your emotional well being. It hurts you to think that he might be curious and stray away. Just having these kinds of things talked about can bring up trust issues.

If you're really confident in yourself and your relationship, then I would recommend swinging over letting him have free reign to sexually explore other women in the world. Swinging isn't for everyone (in fact, it's pretty rare) but it might be just the solution the two of you are looking for. That way, you know that whoever he is sleeping with is also taken, and will go home with the guy she came with (most likely her husband). Plus it will force him to think from your point of view. How would he feel if you wanted to get out and sleep with other guys? Even if you didn't actually do it?

It may be unorthodox, but hopefully this helps.

So what if he's had very little experience when it comes to sex!

to me he sounds very immature talking about such things to his wife, when in fact that they should grow together!

As you seem to have had more experience than him, why don't you teach him all that you learnt from your past as you speak of being an expert on the subject!

It beats me why one partner has to boast about being more experienced than the other, when in fact you should be helping your partner get better at it!

Your thought of letting him go to get more experience is a stupid idea, unless of course your trying to ruin your marriage, or that you want to play around also!

Better still why don't you both work on this subject & make it better for both parties!

Cheers!