What are your views on sex? and how many people have you slept with?

I feel the same way as you. I tried to get my ex bf to get tested for STDS before we could have sex and he absolutely refused. I never had sex with him and broke up with him.

I've had guys that were guy FRIENDS not my boyfriend, get mad and stop talking to me because I wouldn't have sex with them without a commitment.

I'm still a 17 yr. old virgin that's waiting for a guy that will love and respect me before I can lose my V to him.

Hey, the baseline and moral is trust and love. Rest everything follows.

If a guy trusts you and loves you , you'll genuinely be interested to be with him, else you wont even be interested, as u just said. The guy /gal has to set her priorities straight.

I know this quote wouldn't imply on young kids such as 12/13 year olds, but then they need to consult somebody before taking such a big step, as they are innocent and do not realise the drawbacks of those things. Dressing , mind set are things with which people start adjusting after a while, doesn't matter so much.

OK, ready for an OF AGE adult's point of view?!

1. I think it's absolutely appalling and not to mention illegal to have sex that young. 12?! are you kidding?

2. you are totally right in your decisions...

3. *From a guys point of view* you said that it frustrates and scares you that you wont be able to find someone who likes you for this. WELL, any real man loves this about a girl. We dont want to be in a relationship with a girl that sleeps around. the less partners the better.

4. those guys that just move on because you didnt hook-up with them wouldve moved on if you had. theyre just looking for an easy lay. you definitely made the RIGHT decision.

5. GETTING TESTED...is key!!the best way to stop a disease is to prevent the spread of it! If someone wont get tested, I wouldnt be with them either.

6. *the guy thats been with over 20 girls* at such a young age this can definitely be a problem because of a number of reasons, most importantly is the "protection" issue. But as you get older, mid to late 20's, it isnt so bad. bear with me here... if you start having sex at 17, by the time you get to 27, 20 partners is only 2 a year. that number is less than average.

7.*songs brainwashing us* you are definitely right here. it doesnt matter what genre of music you listen to, its always there. thats because "sex sells" I would suggest paying attention to the lyrics before you decide if you like the song or not. Even if you dont pay attention to the words, you still pick up on them subconciously. ( I personally listen to punk rock, and can tell that ive become more politically minded by doing so.)

8. you are totally right in thinking its popular media brainwashing us into the idea that sex is great, so who cares who its with. you are NOT the only one that thinks like this by any means either.

9. as far as the "no good role models" thing. just look a little harder, there are plenty of good celebrities out there. they just dont get as much press because people dont want to hear about things good people do. They want the gossip and the bad stuff. It makes people feel better and more justified about the bad things they do....

So, to summarize everything....

You have a good head about your ideas and dont give up on them. the world needs people like-minded as you or its just gonna be a giant nasty disease infected place with a bunch of teen parents with no idea how to raise the next generation.

just hang in there. eventually you will meet a guy that thinks the way you do. We are out there. My current girlfriend and I were together for almost three months before we slept together, now we have an amazing sexual relationship. Granted you can sleep with anyone and it will be ok, but when its with someone you care about and are comfortable with its WAY better. Its the trust between the two of you that makes the difference.

I do think it is ridiculous. I'm 19 and have been with 2 guys. I lost my virginity when I was 17. I am now in a relationship with a different guy, and we have been together for a year and almost two months. The first guy was a mistake, but I try not regret it because I was having a hard time and he was my best friend. But now I am very happy with my boyfriend. But anyways- it scares me to think that girls that are 13 are having sex, because I'm assuming that many (the majority even) aren't using adequate protection, and they will get pregnant with children that they obviously cannot support. Eesh.

I know exactly why girls have sex that young. I am 14 and a lot of my friends have had sex before. My friend and I talk about this sometimes, she asked me when I wanted to lose my virginity. I said 'I don't know, may be 16?' She was surprised, that was so late, she said. She said she felt so behind everyone else, because a few of our friends have done it before, with several guys, and I'm going to be honest, I haven't even had a boyfriend before. And I made up one. Because I wanted to be 'one of them'. But that's not the point. They all go so fast, that everyone who doesn't go that fast is under pressure. And they wanna do it as fast as possible too. To be one of them. You know what I mean?

From a woman's perspective it is a little irritating but just try being a bit affectionate afterwards like at least spooning or having a cuddle. Do try and stay awake for a few minutes at least to talk to her so she doesn't end up feeling like you just wanted release and a nap basically.

I think you should wait until you are ready for it. Some guys just want to use you for sex, do not fall in love with these types. There are some guys who will like you and want to be with you for who you are, but most will just want to use you. You are still young, and have a lot to learn about it. Keep reading and learning.

before you judge the girls who lost their virginity at a young age, you should keep in mind that everybody matures at a different rate. whether its because of family issues that force mental maturity on you or a treatable mental disorder that causes you to "know" yourself sooner than most people. if someone is mentally mature enough to know the risks of sex, take contraceptive precautions, and respect both people involved (themselves and their partner) after, i think that they are mature enough to make their own choice about having sex.

yes i agree that many young girls are having sex early because of suggestive songs and role models that are making it out to be cool or mature to dress like a slut and have sex like its nothing.

if you had at 12 (while thinking that boys have cooties) had sex because it was "cool" then that would have been because of "brainwashing" and peer pressure. but that is not the case for many young girls.

as to your questions. i have a liberal view on sex, and i have had sex with 8 different people

i honestly say sex after your married, i lost it to my bf when i was 15 and yeah i got a child now so yeah,she was the best mistake i made, and of course i some times wish i was still a virgin, cause now i fill like everyone else at school. but at least im a marry my bf the one I LOVE & lost it to, not someone just random.

im glad about your point of view.

You are right about most people, but not everybody. Stay with what you believe, one day you will find someone right for you and believes the same things as you.