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How long does it take to grieve?
I lost my maternal grandmother a week ago. Although I was not that close to her as I see her once or twice a year but I will miss her.
She passed on because of cancer so it was not a sudden thing. Before she even passed on, I had cried several times. I thought I was already accepting it but on the day we had to send her off for cremation, it hit me once again, she's gone. We sang a song about "mother" by her casket and from then on, I burst into tears again.
It's been three days since and I still teared up whenever I recall that song and that event. Plus, Chinese New Year is around the corner (14 Feb) and she won't be there to greet us anymore.
My parents and siblings seems to be doing just fine, holding their head and moving on but I'm the only one tearing up everytime I think back on the memories and the vision of her. Is this normal?
How long does it take to stop crying? I want some feedback from experiences. I know she doesn't want me to cry but I can't help it. I accepted it but is it normal to feel this way?
2 Answers
- VikingLv 71 decade agoFavorite Answer
Dear Heart...we all grieve in different ways, and in our own time. What you are experiencing is normal and natural...and in a sense a good thing. We don't grieve unless we loved, and apparently you loved. So if you want to cry, then cry. And if possible, find someone you can talk to about this. I promise, after a while, you will start to feel better. Please know your grandmother was an important part of your life, and will always remain in your heart. You will always remember her with wonderful memories. Take care
- Anonymous1 decade ago
Over coming deep grief takes time which differs from person to person. Crying is a very good sign as you are releasing your pain......just because your family seems to be "fine" they just might people who bottle up their emotions, or better yet, aren't in touch with their emotions. Don't compare yourself to anyone else. You are unique. Talk about how you feel, feel free to cry....the pain will subside. There is no magic timetable to overcoming grief.
