Help with mother in-law/ sister in-law?

Yes, give up on them. If your husband (your mother-in-law's own son) doesn't want to speak to her, then follow suit. Why put yourself in a situation where you will never be able to please them no matter how hard you try. Be civil when required but don't feel obligated to please them or make them like you. Their minds are set and no one, least of all you, can change the way they think about you. When you have children, how involved you want your kids to be with your husband's side of the family is entirely up to you and your hubby.

Just give up. If your mother in law has never liked anyone your husband had dated, then obviously no one is perfect enough for her little boy because perfect people don't exist. Just be happy that your husband defends you because you don't know how many men don't defend their wives to their families. Last year, my husband's entire family came over for Christmas and his sister said some vary ignorant things to me right in-front of everyone. My husband didn't jump to defend me. The only person who tried to defend me was my sister-in-law's husband and he failed trying to stand up to his own wife. When I confronted my husband about it later, he told me that I must have misunderstood her because his sister is perfect and that she's the greatest person on earth (maybe if she's that great she could go see her own mother who's been laying in a hospital bed for over a month now, but I guess she's not that great!) So basically, you have no idea how fortunate you are to have your husband's support.

Im kinda in the same boat you're in. My mother-in-law likes the sauce more than her own family unless there is a chance she can suck up to them and get something out of it.She don't like me at all. My husband and I have three children, but since she always tries to start trouble we just stay away. I don't like her but on the rare occasion that she does show up I still act civil just to keep the peace. So that is my advice to you, just bite your tongue and go on until she changes her mind there is nothing you can do.

I feel for you because I've been there! I tried everything to win my in-laws over from cooking them dinners, making them and buying them gifts, inviting them out, ect...! After several times of having each attempt to extend the olive branch blow up in my face (or being smacked over the head w/ said olive branch) I realized that it doesn't matter how much I try, no amount of butt kissing or anything else was going to win them over. I soon realized that i am just way to heavy to constantly be walking on egg shells!!

Yes. Give up and be civil when required and no more. My in-laws come over and see their grand kids every month or two and I am civil but by no means do I go out of my way for anything more. (and they return the same gesture)

It sucks but unfortunately there's nothing you can do to make in-laws like their daughter-in-law.

Good luck!

Be civil when needed.

If they don't want to take the time to get to know you and they have nothing good to say it is detrimental to yourself and your marriage. You did not marry the mother in law and you didn't marry the sister in law, regardless of the mother in law 'experience' none of that matters in your relationship with your husband. You live and you learn.

If she has nothing good to say about you and she won't take the time to talk you what makes you think she is going to take the time to get to know your children much less have anything good to say about you to your (future) children or to your (future) children?

Unless a miracle happens, the relationship won't change.

Just give up! Be civil when needed, its not like you have to sleep with them. You married your husband not his mother or sister and if he defends you and is not worried about them why should you?

Its good to note that you have your hubby's support. Many ladies in such situations are helpless as the hubby doesn't know where to look??? You be good to them whenever they come / u happen to meet them. Your goodness will definitely win them over. Once you start your family, am sure all such nasty things will end. Even if it continues, you won't feel the pinch as you will be engrossed in your family. Takecare.