Question for grandparents.....especially those w/ young children still at home...?

My grandmother says that as a grandma, all she should have to do is accept a smiling clean child, and spoil them rotten, and hand them back to their parents when they are dirty and cranky.

Your daughter expects you to pick up her child and take her places? She needs to get over herself. When I was a kid, mom took me to grandma's, I played, talked to grandma, ate junk, and complained for 15 minutes about not wanting to go home.

No offense, but your daughter is a goof. Tell her you have to keep your priorities in order, and you still have to provide a stable home for your own children, but she is welcome to bring your granddaughter by to spend some time with you while you run your other household.

You're right to be hurt. She's worng.

I am not in the same situation but I think I can still be of help..

the problem lies w/ our own kids.. not the g'kids.. they expect so much these days.. and we didn't spoil them.. it is just they have become so DESENSITIZED.. they only think of them self..

If ur gd is spoiled more so than ur own.. chances are she will not want to be there after the new wears off.. regardless what ur daughter wants.. it is not to say u don't love them.. but we all live different, have different rules and different expectations..

If the other MILaw watches the gd frequently.. then ur daughter must want more time to herself.. it is not right at this stage of life U watch ur gd while trying to raise ur own.. Life is hard enough.. if she wasn't' in a position to take care of her, she should of been more careful.. that is what life is all about.. choices and consequences..

U are a very good mom, and trying to do ur best don't take on more than u can handle, it is good to hear from you.. try to make amends.. then once every 2months.. keep her one afternoon for a couple of hours.. It seems everyone seems to want to impose their kids on you.. speak up but in a nice way.. I hope all works out for you.. good luck and take care..

You have a full plate, and the good thing about being a grandparent is being able to enjoy them at your pleasure, having young ones at home yourself means that you daughter may be too young to mother on a full time basis and is looking for a little time off from you. I would try to see about taking your GD with you when you take your own kids somewhere, an added child isn't a deal breaker.

It sounds like your daughter wants more from you than you can give at this point, its not fair to you to have her compare the situations between one set of grandparents and the other, that's a kids game, don't play it.

If anything point out to your daughter that you are pleased that your GD has one actively involved set of grandparents since you aren't able to do more right now, and you hope that as your own kids get older, that can improve.

We are the ever-available grandparents, we see them at least once, if not more a week for a whole day, sometimes its just at home, sometimes breakfast at McDonald's, Friday its second grade play.

Their other grandparents live in FLA. a plane ride away. I think they are missing out, but that's just me, sometimes its too much for us, we also get them snow days, conference days, etc. It turns me into an unpaid babysitter and I do get a little resentful. Our kids are in the middle of their lives and they don't always think about things from our point of view.

When I had my oldest child my youngest brother was only 10 and my other siblings were 13, 17 and 18. My parents were and still are very busy with their teenagers and trying to finish raising them. I would NEVER make them feel guilty for not giving me a break, they need one just as much as I do. We do spend Sundays after church out there and of course if I called and said I needed them to watch the kids they would in a heartbeat. My kids do have a great relationship with them but most of our time is spent together, very rarely are they with them "just because."

Just try and explain to your daughter that you would like to be more there more, and that someday you will have more time to do it. But right now your priority is not her family but the one you are still raising.

I usually see my grandson almost everyother week because we live close by.

Tell your daughter that even though you love your grandchild to no end your own children come first.

Tell her that your trying your hardest to spend time w/your grandchild but you have a lot on your plate.

Did you talk to her with reference to the entire situation before you purchased married? i'm the "daughter" in a matching situation. My mum has been spectacular in that she tells me each little thing, contains me in each little thing, asks my opinion and does not make me experience like slightly bit her previous existence that she's attempting to depart at the back of. the main factor you're able to do is talk along with her in individual and calmly bypass by what's bothering her - if she gets indignant or cries then enable her - pay attention to each little thing she has to declare. She would think of that now you have a sparkling existence which you will no longer desire her around so shes reducing herself off first to cut back the discomfort. on the tip of the day she continues to be your little woman or perhaps at 20 she will in all threat wish which you have been nonetheless along with her daddy. clarify that issues will by no skill substitute between you and make a huge attempt to comprise her on your new existence.