Have you ever suddenly realized that your bf/gf is the one thats making you unhappy?

Start hanging out with your girl friends more..Occupy your time with something else for a while. If you feel more relaxed and happy then maybe you guys should split for a while or good. If you are not happy with him, don't make your life miserable.

OR, if you know what it is he's doing/saying/not doing to make you feel the way you do, why don't you sit down and talk about it? Tell him how you feel. Maybe the both of you can meet in the middle. Talking and letting each other know how you feel is really important in relationships. Good Luck.

I know exactly what you mean. I've been married for almost six years and I went through feeling like that more than once.

I know it may not be what you want to hear, but that's not entirely the truth.

There are two things that I've come to learn after all these years.

One, you can't expect an empty, unhappy person to somehow satisfy you. If you are both unhappy inside how can you bring each other happiness? It is impossible to expect that from anyone.

Two, you need to accept responsibilty your own misery. Even though it's easier to blame it on someone else, and even though logically it may seem like it IS someone else's fault ... it's not. it really isn't.

Sometimes time alone does help. You also just need to remember that you are seperate from your bf, and you need to take care of yourself first as an individual before you can expect to have anything to offer as part of a couple.

Oh, and I'm still married and much happier now that I take responsibility for my own misery.

I'm not always happy, but when I'm not I know it's because there is something lacking in me ... it has nothing to do with him. During those times I have to look inside of myself and come to terms with what it is I am doing or not doing that is making me unhapy.

hi , the truth is that ive felt like that almost in every relationship ive been in, some times you start a relationship with tons of friends and you end up with no friends, just you and your gf or bf.because people get life twisted til reality kicks them in the ***, obligation kills alot from a relationship so does jealousy and thinking you own someone, i sure like comunicatig with you, i dont know if you remember me but you ansered a question of mine regarding shooting porn and buying a camera etc. you were very kind, so if i can help you out with any thing, feel free to ask, and i wouldnt mind giving you my email adress maybe i can make you feel alive again or that you have a purpose hahaha. bye

Girl I am in the same boat. I try my best to be the best girlfriend a girl can be but today i have realized that my bf actually makes me feel unhappy. He always chooses hids friends over me and he constantly cheats. Although he is good to me he is not for me. I have realized that I need someone to love me and only me and someone that realizes my worth. A person shouldnt be unhappy with a loved one all the time. He is suppose to lift you up and be there for you when your down. All I can say is LET GO AND LET GOD. PRAYER HELPS.

do it! move on. I just broke up with a guy that was making my life miserable...he treated me horrible and disrespected me so much.... I feel a lot happier now...yeah I still miss the good times...but there were more bad times than good. I just feel lonely, I guess it's a stage that you go through after breaking up with someone you were accustomed to....You'll be fine, trust me. Show him that you love yourself and that you dint need him to control your happiness.

Maybe take a break from him. It doesn't need to be decided right this moment. Have some time without him and if that is feeling good for you...then remain apart.

Yeah, but I think that kind of typical. With my boyfriend, I get those feelings every once in a while. Try talking to him about it, he might feel the same.

yea i feel that way

but its hard for me to do that

but u noticed when a guy is inlove he startsacting childish? like in a kidy way? yea the do.

idk its up to you,but make sure ure readya nd u WONT regret it.

cuz there is no way to go back to where u were.

if you really feel that he makes you unhappy then you shouldn't be together you should take a look at your relationship and decide if its really worth it. you have a long way ahead of you and if ur not happy move on

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