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friendship falling apart?
I've known my best friend since 2nd grade, we are currently seniors in high school and since she's gotten a boyfriend in the fall she's changed. I feel like im being replaced by him & one of our other friends. We no longer communicate like before and barely see each other. I am always the one to text/call her first and ask to hang out. Should i continue putting in all the effort of should i just give up?
When i ask her about her relationship she doesn't want to tell me anything because she believes she's gonna jynx it.
5 Answers
- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
If she's not making an effort, stop calling/texting her- you have some self dignity right? do you want to be a plan B? She now has a bf it's ok, but ask yourself if you've done the same thing in the past? Let her go your way, I'm sure you can lead a great life without her, she obviously takes you for granted. Go look for friends, I'm sure you can find 2-3 other good friends, start hanging out with them- she will either be jealous and come back, and if she doesn't well.... at least you tried and it's time to move on.
I've had a best friend for 10 years and when things started to be shaky (she found another best mate) I left and realized that I really did loose time with her, there were lots of good people and good activities that I wasn't enjoying because of her. I don't regret it for a second, it was all meant to be!
- DarlaLv 51 decade ago
Yes, continue putting up with it. I know it is hard. Try listening to her about him and being happy for her about him. If you act jealous or act like you are mad because she hangs out with him more now, then you are not showing her much friendship. What do you expect her to do, just not have a boyfriend. It is a 100% natural part of life. One day, you'll have a boyfriend too and you'll still need her friendship. And maybe you guys can all hang out together and it will be a very fun experience for everyone. Later on in life when you guys are all married, done with the dating thing and college etc... you will come back to the way it was. But for now, dating is an important part of life. You have to let her experience it without withdrawing your friendship. That isn't fair. At the same time, she should still make time to talk to you. If she doesn't, let her know that even though she has a boyfriend, that you still need her friendship. If she doesn't show support to you, then you should widen your circle of friends. The more friends you have to fill in the gaps when other friends are busy, the less you'll care when they are busy because you'll still have other friends. So, don't worry about it. Be happy for your friend, ask about the relationship. Show your support to her and maybe she be more supportive of you.
- 1 decade ago
it's pretty much typical that when your friend gets a boyfriend she'll spend more time with him than you, I would talk to her and tell her how u feel. if shes a good friend she'll feel bad that shes hurt u. appreciate that she obv reli likes this guy and u are gonna have to share her with him. arrange to spend some time with her when shes not with him. shell prob enjoy being away from him for a bit.
- 1 decade ago
of course u should continue, because shes got bf and started thinking tht she can live without frnd, but u stay calm, whn she needs u she will call u .,infact it is the rule of frndship that u shld try to adjust according to ur fnds whether she/he not... i hav tried this, but u continue. also make a chek on her , so tht nothing goes wrong with her
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