my girl just confessed... and im so lost..help pliz?

I would personally never abort a baby, but for some people, it's the right choice. If she didn't think that she had the means to properly care for child, than she did the baby a favour by aborting it. Better that than for the child to have a subpar life due to unfortunate circumstances. I suggest talking it through with her, and making sure that everything is out in the open. Remember, she is still the same person that you know and love, and people make mistakes.

Why would you hate to marry someone who had an abortion? What about that makes you reconsider marrying her? She is the same person that you have always loved. You should keep that in mind.

Also, if she had kept the baby you very likely would have never been with her and wouldn't be considering sharing your life with her.

Just try to keep your head level and try to understand her reasons for making the choice she did. If you can't resolve the choice she made in your head then you have to accept that and move on. I think that would be a big mistake though.

If you love her then you shouldn't let the abortion get to you. She made that choice for a reason. In your eyes if she is not perfect then you should take a good look at yourself. At least she was honest and told you the truth about her past. She could've never told you but the fact that she felt that you deserved to know everything about her means she is serious about spending the rest of her life with you. If you cannot deal with it then let her go.

Here's the problem with getting an answer to the question on here. Abortion is a view that stem from a person's growing up and what he religion he believes in, what his parents expressed on the subject, and what the issue stems from his emotions. You are going to get answers from all sides of the subject. What you need to do is make a pro and con list of marraige to this girl, see what your religion says on the topic, and take time to reflect on it privately and personally. That should get you an answer.

I'm surprised she ever confessed at all. I praise her, since it takes a lot of courage to confess that kind of matter. It means that she really thinks of you as an important person in her life and is hoping that you'll accept her even if she did confess that to you. Most girls wouldn't bother to confess that at all. I have a friend who did that and never even brought it up with her husband. So consider yourself a lucky dude. I'm sure your girlfriend hopes that you won't judge her for her past, since she trusts you a lot, seeing as she confessed that to you. Try and have a no-judgement talk with her and tell her your opinions. Clear up the matter with your girlfriend. I'm sure she is as troubled as you now. I hope all goes well with you guys. :D

What she did was the past, she probably did a mistake and probably regrets it. You can't change what she did. So you can either accept what she had done or lose the one your deeply in love with.

Good Luck =)

it's the past, im against abortion but she couldnt change whats been done. explain to her you never want that ever.