Has anyone ever felt like the grandparents think your kids are theirs?

Oh I feel for you...my ex mother in law filed her son's taxes with me on after I filed separately. She got on her comouter and got my SS# then told us if we didn't file that way she would report us!! We had been separated and could file that way. She is a Jehovah's Witness and I am not and she continually tells my 6 yr old daughter things like "there is no such thing as Santa." You have EVERY right to be upset...MOTHER IN LAWS NEED TO MIND THEIR BUSINESS! Didn't they already have their children and raise them? They should trust that they did a good enough job raising their son's that they are capable of making decisions regarding their family. Good luck! I pray your husband stands up for his family...mine did not.

Well, I don't think it's okay for her to claim your child on her taxes. You should say something like "I've already done my taxes and claimed them, so 2 people can't claim the same kids". As for them thinking they are theirs...my parents don't do that. They always ask what the kids can/should have for dinner (if they're babysitting). They always seem to want to do things as close to the way that I do things, for the kids sake. Now my inlaws...thats a whole different story. They do things how THEY want to, and don't care how the kids take it. My mom lays down with my kids at night to make sure they feel secure when she puts them to bed (on a rare night that they stay overnight). However, inlaws would just put them in a bed and shut the door...cause thats how they do things.

Do you think you feel this way because it's your inlaws? Would you feel the same if this was your parents that tried to do this?

My mother-in-law wants to claim my child next year. I told her that she was crazy. She says she can put her down as her job. That she and my boyfriend can say that she takes care of her and that my boyfriend pays her cash. That way they both get money. Over my dead body. She has never even babysat for us much less takes care of her all day everyday. Plus, that is fraud. I am a stay at home mom!! She had a fit but I don't care. She has tried to butt into how we raise our child and I have always put her back into her place, my boyfriend (sadly) is a momma's boy so I do it myself. Maybe if you guys could move out she wouldn't butt in so much? How do you live with them but have your own apartment? I don't understand that part. Is it like a guest house?

omg that is bizzare, my grandparents arent like that, but that must be really annoying by the example you just gave i dont think you are over reacting at all, maybe you should talk to your husband about it, and if they want to start claiming your kids on their taxes (which surely that cant be aloud can it?) they should start helping out in caring for them i.e paying for there food etc :)

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yeah i know how you feel im only 36 weeks pregnant and my in laws are acting like im having their kid and they did the same thing to my sister in law when she had her daughter they were like can i hold her and she was like sure and then when tracy wanted to leave they wouldn't give her back there like well we have rights when really they don't. they are trying to control everyone kid around they and im not going to put up with it i told my husband that ill put a restraining order on them and hunny they can claim your child that's just wrong i would say something to them i know im going to have too to mine and i know how you feel like you want to say something but then you don't cuz you live there and they are you in laws and your stuck with them lol but anyways best of luck :)

i think its your mother inlaw its not right what she thinks , maybe if u could speak to her one day and explain everything and maybe you could work this out but i doubt it try talking to your husband he might take some time out and talk to her for you ,but how does your kids feel about this ,anyways good luck with everything ,

If your MIL can't say that she pays more than 50% or your child's expenses (Food, clothing, shelter etc.) she cannot claim your children. Tell her to bugger off.

They used to, but we set them straight. We made it clear that if they couldn't respect us as our son's parents, then they wouldn't be around any of us.

By the way, your MIL is full of crap. Does she buy all groceries and cover all expenses for your children? I doubt it. Based on her logic, a landlord could claim his tenant's child.

my husbands grandmother butchered my son's hair because she thought he looked like a girl. (he was only one!)

I wouldn't let her claim your children.