how to become better friends with my roommate?

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how do i get my roommate to open up?

my roommate and i are both very quiet and shy people... we're friendly to each other but i would like to become better friends with her.. i'm just not sure how! she's very private and used to spend all of her time with her boyfriend (they just broke up). i also had a boyfriend last quarter so i feel like we were both too busy with relationships to "connect". we weren't randomly assigned either- she's sisters with my guy housemate... thoughts?

MonaLISAme · Accepted Answer

First of all you don't have to feel obligated to befriend her. But since you do, you can leave notes around the house for her like, "I made some dessert and thought you would like to join me in having some later on"     

Or you bought a new DVD and thought you could watch it together and talk about guys. Whatever.

Ita · Answer

Your intention to befriend your roommate is okay. You have the 'ace' to break the ice since you see each other oftentimes GO AHEAD try to look for a very good timing and plan your approach. Improper timing and insensible approach may ruin your image and might keep her distant from you instead. A wholesome joke always finds a way in gaining friendship, why don't you try one?

SharkWeek · Answer

My roommate and I easily became best friends starting by just going to meals together, like dinner or if our lunch schedules were the same. In the evenings when we weren't working we just chilled in the living room and talked, etc

Valarie · Answer

Find things you have in common. Drawing, music, or anything. Compliment her clothes. Maybe even talk and then extend a lunch get together or invite her to a get together with your friends.

Anonymous · Answer

i'm a 40 3 guy, and that i strongly have faith that there's no this sort of element as a chum. have faith me. that's good to socialise, yet do no longer have faith anyone as a chum. that's in basic terms a supply and take game, guy. you're gentle, i can tell. you would be injury.

? · Answer

ask her if she wants to hang out, go shopping, go to a movie. have a girls night with you and a couple other girls...even act like a teenager and have a slumber party (including, chick flicks, facials, makeovers) if she says no to this stuff or just doesn't seem interested..well atleast you tried...and thats all you can do.

Mr.K · Answer

y dont u get some starbucks together and talk
about whatever 
ask her about some personal stuff and maybe she'll open up

the all american rejects&lt;3 · Answer

ask her if she wants to grab a coffee or something :)

eventually you guys will open up to each other and you'll become friends

!!Alex!! · Answer

just show her this question u've posted i think she'll get the idea and u two can try to be better friends

Margaret · Answer

hang out together go bowling or maybe ask her if she wants to talk about anything

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