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How do i forget about a girl i love?
I work with this girl; at first i thought she liked me because she would text me in the middle of the night and we would text back n fourth until 3-4am for days. From then on we were more friendly at work, she would touch me arms or when i'm working the Q (we both are pharmacy techs) she would tell me about her day and so forth and again all touchy feely. She has a boyfriend so i wanted to stay away from her but over time i fell in love with her personality, we have a lot of things in common, shes very cute and her attitude and kindness makes me even more attracted to her. I asked her to go out for drinks and she said that sounds like fun(i thought i was out of line by asking because of her BF but she said that he doesn't get jealous). It was all going good up until last week when we just stop talking/texting at night. I text'd her and she would just reply with one word answers which we usually never do, before she would text me first or i would text her and then we would just go into a random conversation.
Well that all stopped suddenly and to be honest...it hurts. I liked this girl for so long but when we began to talk more i fell in love with her personality and she is cute which to me is the icing on the cake. It hurts a lot because i'm confused. I don't want to stop loving her but it hurts so bad inside.. I find myself crying at night sometimes and not as happy as i once was. Something tells inside to keep loving her but i just don't know anymore. Its going to hurt not loving her but it most likely has to be done. please help
9 Answers
- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
Get over it.
Think about something more positive in your life.
If you don't have anything positive in your life, that's why you're alone at night.
Women don't want to be with guys who absorb their lives and label everything as "an improvement to the sh!t world I had before her".
And quit texting... it's a bad habit with no communication skills.
- 1 decade ago
First thing is to do nothing for a week or so and let your urgent feelings subside. After one week, ask yourself again about your true feelings. For example only, maybe you'll discover that feeling dumped is more of your concern than is your love for her. At that point you can ask a mutual friend for advice, or to broker a communication as a third party. The worst that can happen is that it will take six months to even a year or two for living life to 'override' the obsessive feelings—but they almost always dissipate over time. The main thing now is to do nothing for a few days. Give yourself that breather. Hope this helps.
Source(s): Been there, plus teaching psych and soc. - ?Lv 45 years ago
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- Anonymous1 decade ago
Well, it may be that her boyfriend found out about you two or she got afraid from the label of "cheater". She might have only befriended you because she needed support (maybe because she doesn't have someone to lean on, her boyfriend isn't great, wich is why she didn't mind cheating on him with you). You should get over her because it will hurt you less than loving her and not getting love back. Don't be cold with her, just don't be so nice. Get another girl to get your mind of the girl from work. Stop texting her at night, if she wants to communicate with you, she will.
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- Satan ClawsLv 71 decade ago
<QUOTE>I asked her to go out for drinks and she said that sounds like fun</QUOTE>
She didn't say "yes", but rather "that sounds like fun". Because she didn't say yes, it has the same effect of her meaning "no".
It's like buying a car. A Ferrari sounds like fun, but you're not buying it because a Bugatti is more of a head turner.
<QUOTE>It was all going good up until last week when we just stop talking/texting at night.</QUOTE>
She made up with her boyfriend. All night long. Every night.
<QUOTE>to be honest...it hurts.</QUOTE>
It hurts because you were expecting. It's your fault, not hers. You let yourself go through it -- for a girl which already has a boyfriend. She can do whatever the hell she wants -- you control your own actions.
<QUOTE>I don't want to stop loving her </QUOTE>
Then go ahead and keep up with it. See if it helps.
<QUOTE>I find myself crying at night sometimes</QUOTE>
Oh ****.
Cry when a friend or family dies, not for someone else's girl.
<QUOTE>Something tells inside to keep loving her </QUOTE>
Who ever that is, shut him/her up.
<QUOTE>please help</QUOTE>
I understand perfectly what you've been going through. But there is something I don't understand yet: is she the only girl you know?
You sir are an egoist. Because you consume yourself over a girl that is unavailable, you're denying the other available girl the chance to date you. If you don't believe me, search this forum for all the girls and women complaining about how they can find a boyfriend.
Get out there and date other women. Don't stop until you've had sex with ten different women. Only then you'll have learned enough about women to make smarter choices. (It won't keep you from making mistakes, but you'll avoid doing these rookie mistakes.)
- Anonymous1 decade ago
You probably crossed the line somewhere and intimated more to her than just friendship. Hello. She has a boyfriend you twerp. She made that quite clear to you. You misread her friendliness for more than it was.You made her uncomfortable. She obviously loves her b.f. Good on her!
You can continue wanking off thinking about her or grow some balls and find a g.f. who isn't already in a relationship. There are plenty of them out there.
- 1 decade ago
well im very sorry that you have to go through this...heartache is called heartache for a reason. you need to just well let time handle this..its painful yes but its a process we all go through. you need to preoccupy yourself in other things meet new ppl go to new venues you don't normally venture out to and she may fade from your mind. good luck..love is a rough road.
Source(s): life. - 1 decade ago
well start realizing that she was basically using you for some attention that her boyfriend might not been giving her and once her boyfriend found out about you maybe he found out he got upset and she realized she was doing wrong.she was leading you on which was wrong.but lets think of it this way if you and her wouldve gotten together what would make you think she wouldnt be doing the samething she did to her boyfriend with you to you?