Is it healthy to be completely optimistic when the odds are so set against you?

I think optimism is what has keep alot of women going not only through pregnancy but also through the TTC journey weather it has been a few month or a few years.

I am so happy for you, after everything you have been through and were about to go through you get to go through this phase of your life instead!

I am praying so hard for you that this bean is a sticky one and in 9 months you will be holding baby in your arms!

I can't imagine how good it was to see those lines come up.

I know how you feel since 2007 I have had 3 miscarriages 1 was twins and 2 were singletons. I have also had an ectopic pregnancy,

My partner and I have now been TTC#2 for 14mths and it's been one heck of a journey from being diagnosed with PCOS to just getting af each month.

Some under estimate the getting pregnant thing and it's not until you meet someone who has been trying for so long to get pregnant and has had to endure so many heartaches do you finally realise how lucky you are to just to have gone through x-amount of months TTC and x-amount of treatments and things. And to them they can still be optimistic and hopefully that oneday they will hear the words mummy and daddy coming from their child's mouth.

You are such an inspiration to so many women who have felt like giving up.

I personally don't know alot about you but just by reading this you have touched me and it seems on one of my lowest days that I've had in my 2WW you have just made me cry with joy for you, and the optimism to carry on and hold my head up, and not let this TTC journey get me down.

I know exactally how you feel about the symptoms. Having symptoms is a very reasuring thing, it lets you know your body is doing it's job.

I hope your fertility doctor can have some optimism for you, even if he doesn't show I bet he is so happy for you.

Each time I have gotten pregnant there was something in me that said there is something wrong. Each time it has been correct. When I was pregnant with my son I had this feeling that I can't describe, I wanted to shout from the rooftops that I was pregnant and I knew it was going to be a good one.

I truely do hope and pray that this baby is a blessing from God and he make this one stick for you.

I hope you have a beautiful and wonderful 9 months of pregnancy and enjoy every minuet of it!

Please keep me informed I would really love to know how you go.

I am new to yahoo answers, and found you almost immediately. You are very knowledgeable in all things TTC. I enjoy your answers, and your "those who can't do, teach" attitude. I also enjoy your "long rant" questions, because I myself feel that my questions are rants as well =)

I have been TTC for 2 years, have PCOS, and have NEVER seen more than one line. I hope and pray, and am proactively trying to make that day come. I too, anxiously await all the "annoying" symptoms most women dread. I understand the craziness you feel, and relate to you.

I think if anything, the effects of this optimism will be nothing but great! I wish you so much luck and will pray for you that this is IT! While I do understand being realistic, I think any doctor who tells you not to be happy is ignorant. It is a statistically proven fact that optimistic people live longer, and lead more fullfilling and happy lives.

So, to you I say, pee on 30 more tests! Be happy atleast until you have a reason not to be!! Smile just because, and have faith that what's meant to be, will be!

Thinking positive and being / feeling optimistic are the very best things you can do for that tiny, tiny baby right now! The mind is an extraordinarily powerful thing, and the interaction between mind and body is not yet fully understood by ANY medical practitioner, mental health specialist, psychoanalyst or in fact any person living or dead. But I know this much at very least... the more you can visualise, imagine, be convinced that a thing will happen, the more likelihood there is that your own mind will allow that thing to manifest in your life. You stay as positive as you can and you are doing more to help your situation than all the medical intervention in the world could do for you. Good luck, and I'll be thinking positive thoughts for you too. xx

i think if you have a sense of optimism you should go with it. i had 2 consecutive miscarriages before conceiving this one and i was terrified of losing her. i spent the whole first 12 weeks waiting and living from scan to scan and test to test. i didnt have much morning sickness or symptoms so i was worried that was a bad sign. i kept waiting to see blood on the toilet paper. it was a looong 12 weeks.

i think if the embryo is viable and you are using progesterone suppositories (you cant run out! you must must must get a refill immediately!!!!) then you are in with every chance of being just fine.

try to see the ultrasounds and bloods as a way of confirming what you already know.. that this pregnancy has had a great start. every test getting darker is fantastic. mine went negative before i miscarried - you know all this - its looking good right now so stay positive. i think your attitude is inspiring and i wish i could have enjoyed early pregnancy more. x

Awww Alexandra! I am so happy that you are pregnant! I can not begin to explain how happy I am for you!

No way is it bad to get too optimistic with a new pregnancy when you have a history of miscarriages! You have gone through so much to get here that you must feel like screaming I am going to be a mummy from the roof tops!

You have been such an inspiration to me during my lowest times of TTC. You are so strong and keep on going and have kept me positive when I was petrified of a miscarriage or when I was told to go on bed rest.

I can not talk from any experience with miscarriages and TTC for me was nothing compared to whatyou have gone through.

But if you are optimistic then good for you! You are carrying a precious life inside of you, your baby. That is a very good reason to be smiling right now! Ok, they will probably say not to get your hopes up but you can not be down about it either! Keep smiling for your little growing baby inside of you!

Look forward to him or her growing inside of you. Positive thoughts can do alot for your little one.

It must be awful to be prodded but look forward to going to your doctors in 9 months time with a precious baby and telling them that you prooved them wrong and here is the proof.

I am laughing that you tok 25 tests! I took loads too. Even at 29 weeks I still love seeing those 2 pinks lines after dreaming for so long.

Never ever give up. Keep positive and I will be looking forward to pictures when he/ she is born!

Congratulations! x

Sweetie, you are obviously an incredibly strong person to go through all that you have been through and still be optimisitic. I think it is wonderful that you are aware of the good and bad and still remain positive. And who can blame you, you have a little person inside you. I can't say that I know how you feel because I have never miscarried (that I know about) and it took us nearly 12 months to get pregnant with number 1. We are now trying for number 2. I wish you all the luck in the world and will have everything crossed for you.

Tons and tons of very very very sticky Baby Dust to you.

This may be completely irrelevant but it's an interesting positive story I think. When my mother was pregnant with my little brother, her doctors told her it was a tubal pregnancy and if she didn't have an abortion she'd die and leave her daughter *me* all alone. She refused and two years later she took her son in and told them "here's my tubal". He's now 12 years old and perfectly healthy. All her life before me she was told she'd never be able to have children, and even after she had one, the odds were against her. She kept going though and has two children and is perfectly happy. It's wonderful that you're so optimistic. Keep it up and good luck hun :)

sure, commonly the 'odds being in opposition to you' is only a means of the brain pondering up illusory numbers. Its some way of accepting failure because the larger. But of path that does not imply we do not fail in any respect. We have got to fail in an effort to style victory, once we just like the style we appreciate the probabilities as viable.

wow your story is a real eye opener for those of us who haven't had continues miscarriages.. i'm soooo pleased for you! stay strong.. i lost my little boy at 28 weeks im now 14 weeks and 4 days after trying for 11 months and im terrified to let myself get to close to this one but trying to stay strong too good luck! i'll pray for us both xxxx

No it's not. I'm so happy to hear that you finally got a BFP. Hope all goes well for you & this is your time. You deserve this & i wish you the best of luck with all. Congrats again