My brother has Asperger's syndrome?

as a good sister, you really need to learn to adapt and appreciate your brother more. Imagine is you were the one with the disease. I have known and worked with several kids with aspergers, and aside from their randomness (excuse the term) they really are nice. Of course he's going to whine, or claim things unfair or etc. but still, be a good sister and try to work with him or something.

Sorry you are in the middle of an unappetizing sandwich eg middle child always has it a bit harder.....I was one too.

First of all, find ways to love your brother! You know he cannot stop his behaviors easily and if the environment is unsettled, his habits may get even more pronounced. Personally, I would establish a code word he can use with only you, so that you know when he's losing control and you know when support is needed.

Secondly, make no excuses for Josh to your friends: tell them the truth, and let them know he is unable to be in control all the time, like they are.

Thirdly, keep a routine at home as much as possible so that Josh can predict what will happen next like; homework after supper, a walk or go to the mall on Saturday afternoon (whatever are your mutual interests).

Get some regular time for yourself somehow and don't let anyone intrude on your privacy.

Seek support online and have a link to send to curious and questioning others such as the following one: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asperger_syndrome

Most importantly, contact both Mental Health Association and Social Services for support in getting prescribed medication and Josh's doctor for direction on what is available in community for families, and who specifically could be contacted for services important for Josh.

Have your Mom do these contacts-these issues are hers to deal with, not yours in fact.

So a simple answer to how you get over this does not exist. Remember to breathe, to seek and accept help and support for yourself, and to try to live your life as a normal teen.

Best of luck,

Donna

I have a 14 year old autistic son, and honey, you cannot fix this with medication. It sounds like he is not receiving enough behavior modification distractions. Your parents need to step up and help this boy if he is truly acting out. PDD require a ton of attention.