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My girlfriend and I broke up around Thanksgiving. We were together for about 18 months. She has a little girl that's not mine, but in the course of our relationship I began to feel for this little girl like she were my own. When we broke up, my girlfriend pushed me out of her life completely (and her daughters) until a few weeks ago when we started talking again. She really wants me back, but I haven't made up my mind whether I'm going to take her back or not, and she knows this and is giving me time to make up my mind.
The thing is I would really really like to see her daughter again, and my ex-girlfriend has agreed to let me see her again, and be in her life. I've really really missed her. She's 3 and a half now (she was not quite two when my girlfriend and I got together). The daughter really misses me too. Apparently she's always asking her mom where I am, and what happened to me, and why I don't come around anymore.
The question is do you think it's in the daughters best interest for me to re-enter her world again? I know I miss her and she misses me, and I would love to see her again, and spend time with her again. I just don't know if it is in her best interest.
4 Answers
- CharmLv 71 decade agoFavorite Answer
Not until you know if you are getting back together with your girlfriend. It's too hard for the child to have you come and go.
And I think your maybe ex is a real ***** for using her child, and your affection for that child to try to get you back, because that is exactly what she is doing.
Don't confuse the child. Stay away until you know you are coming back for good.
- 1 decade ago
I think if you are seriously thinking of getting back together with the girlfriend it would be OK to spend some time with the daughter. If you don't think you're going to get back together, then don't. At 3 years old she's just to young to understand that not all relationships last. If you come back for a while, then leave again, she's going to be confused and hurt.
I get that you miss her, but you have to put her best interests first before anything else. Her mom should be doing the same thing.
- :)Lv 61 decade ago
Cut ties now if you know what's good for you.You are only going to get even more attatched and screw with the kid's mind too.Sounds like this lady is the kind to use her kid to get what she wants...you.Save yourself the drama and move on.
- ALv 71 decade ago
It's not in her best interest. When her mother gets another b/f do you think she will continue to let you see the little girl? I doubt it. Best to let the child forget you now.
