dance partner dilema..help me out?

I think the idea of trying it out before accepting his offer is a wise idea. In my own opinion, knowing that he would be embarrassed for people to know he was dancing might be a red flag. Obviously he offered so he is offering for you to make you happy, and that's great, but this is something you love and he finds embarrassing. I would be worried for it to cause turbulence in your relationship, just because he may come across some kind of move he can't get or is uncomfortable with and bail since he's personally not invested in it either way.

I think it's hard for dancers to maintain a relationship with non-dancers. I had a really rough time of it, mostly because ordinary people don't understand the passion behind it. Try him out in a social dance class, and see how it goes. The decision is ultimately yours, but personally I decided a long time ago not to try and mix my marriage to dance with a relationship with a person unless they're already invested in dance as well.

This is a difficult situation. You don't want to ruin the relationship, but he seems interested in what you do. All I could offer is personal experience and advice. It really is up to what is best for you.

I have a very close friend that I have been dancing with for a year, we had begun dating a while ago. We decided a few months ago to officially become dance partners (We dance Bachata, Salsa and Cha Cha + a teensy bit of ballroom, and were on the same team) Now when we are talking dance its all good. We have a great connection and work well together on the dance floor.

Now our personal relationship has just ended and I thought I was without a partner, but we have managed to salvage that as we LOVE the dance and love dancing with each other. I trust him, so tricks are never a problem. It has just become a business transaction instead of something we do as a "couple" for fun.

I worry about him wanting to keep it a secret. If you need a serious partner and are going to compete, then why is he ashamed of it. Confidence is key - this I am sure you already know and have probably mastered if you are competing.

I would say try and see if he likes it and do it for fun together. The competitive aspect could put a strain on the relationship or the relationship could strain the dancing. But ultimately, it is up to you on what you really want from a dance partner.

Best of Luck!!!

Well first off I want to say that ballroom dance is amazing! I'm only a competitive cheerleader, so we do have high paced dancing, although its not the same. It's not he wants to help you out, but if you want to go through with it you should tell him that even if you guys have to give each other constructive criticism

that you shouldn't let it wreck your relationship.

Also, if he actually is embaressed maybe he shouldn't be doing it, because like you said your a proud dancer, and theres no shame in what your doing.

I don't if that helped at all, but I hope everything goes well! Good luck