Please help. I need advice on my dad.?

sounds like he's stressed out and/or hates his job and/or has financial issues.

I would say he and your mom probably talk a lot when you're not privy to the conversation, never take what he says to your mom to be the only thing he says for all you know he may apologize or have ways of speaking with/to your mom you don't know about. they may have had multiple discussions on a subject before you were involved and he's irritated that it keeps being brought up when to him it's been resolved/discussed as far as it needs to.

Look at it from his perspective, perhaps everything irritates him and makes him mad, perhaps he gets road rage on the way home and has worked hard all day. Perhaps he just wants to talk about something that won't stress him or maybe he needs some alone time.

When your dad gets home is this when you hammer him with questions? If so, perhaps wait until he's eaten. Do you know most men get ornery when they haven't eaten?

It sounds like when he's away from his job and whatever stress he's under he's different to you and your family. He's the same guy probably just under alot of stress on a regular basis. Perhaps after he's eaten isn't the best time if he works late either... I'd say if he doesn't do much on weekends that's the best time to talk to him on what you think are important subjects. Perhaps on a nice saturday morning after he eats his breakfast, approach him, perhaps even cook it for him and then ask him if it's a good time to talk.

Obviously your dad loves your mom or you wouldn't be walking around, and they were together before you were around.

Its possible that your dad is bi polar. My father suffered physical and emotional abuse when he was growing up and as a result he has really bad mood swings. He gets angry for almost no reason but other times he is loving, helpful, and really great to be around. When he is in a good mood, he is wonderful, but when he's angry its terrifying. When I was young, he used to get angry and leave our house for the weekend. Later, he actually left for four months. I know he never cheated on my mom or anything like that and he always sent her his checks from work. Its just that he would get so angry sometimes he would even scare himself. Maybe some form of therapy or counseling would help your dad. However, it might not be a good idea to bluntly tell him that he needs help. That would prlly provoke more anger. I'm not sure how to go about convincing him to get counseling since my own dad refuses to go. Good luck :) I hope you find a way to help your parents.

You should talk to him about it, and say how it is affecting your family's relationships with him. If he gets angry simply tell him that he has nothing to be angry about and that this is the kind of thing you are talking about. If he cuts you off or doesn't listen stand up and shout!! When he says stop or asks why you are shouting , say it is the only way you feel that you can get through to him. Tell him that you love him, but you are not feeling loved by him and it makes you heartbroken that you do not have a good relationship with your dad. He should soon regret being so rude to you!

a couple of questions, does your dad snore, is he over weight? I ask for two reason, the first if he snores he may have sleep apnea, meaning he is not actually resting when he sleeps at night. This can cause a person to have high irritation. Second I ask if he is over weight, not always a sign but he may also have diabetes. When a diabetics blood sugar fluctuates it makes them snap for no reason. Just a couple of things to look at. Also since he is 50 he may be having a mid life crisis making him unhappy with his place in the world.

What is his life at work like? This is no excuse - but he could be extremely stressed. I know that many families are put under an enormous about of stress because of the economy, so it could be his work.

I think you should talk to your Mom, and tell her how he hurts your feelings when he does stuff like that, how it could possibly scare you, and plan with your Mother how to bring it up calmly and sincerely to him to have a possible talk about what is going on. I'm sure he loves you guys - but it seems like there is a lot of miscommunication going on. Good luck!

a million. A cellular telephone if she don't have one. If it really isn't any longer an selection, no longer understanding what she likes, i'd propose a quite necklace or something like that. you may even take her with you to %. one out that she'll deal with to placed on plenty and say "thanks, my dad gave it to me." at the same time as human beings praise it. yet then, i respect rings and he or she may no longer. you could in basic terms provide to take her procuring one weekend and purchase her some clothing or books or in spite of it truly is she likes. That way you get to spend time at the same time too. 2. I actual in basic terms had a lengthy verbal substitute with my manager and some different coworkers about this :P many of the adult men with daughters suggested 16. I say 15 or maybe 14 (your call, you're her father... once you imagine she's mature adequate). yet in case you go away it too lengthy she'll do it besides and then she will be able to no longer sense like she will communicate over with you if she needs to and also you truly do not favor that. 3. What time does she get up interior the morning? Curfew must be a minimum of 9 hours before that so she receives homestead, get to mattress and get a powerful sleep in the course of the college week. At 13 i'd say 9 in the course of the week, 10 on weekends is quite functional. conventional suggestion: do not ever freak out about boy stuff. you truly, genuinely favor her to handle to go back communicate over with you and he or she will be able to no longer if she's worried you receives truly disillusioned. Be open consisting of her and he or she'll be open with you.

He`s got a split personality, like a Jekyll and Hyde character. He might even have mild mental problems so can`t help these mood swings.

Just stick by your mother and sympathise with her. Tell her to let it all fall like water off a ducks back - to listen to him rant, let him blow it all out, but inwardly take no notice of what he is ranting about - think her own thoughts and do what she wants to do, and don`t react to his bullying.

Sometimes a person will realise his ranting is getting him nowhere and will begin to feel he is simply ranting at himself and no one is taking any notice and he starts to feel a fool.

So hopefully, this might happen in yr case.

I`ve known many men like yr Dad. They seem angry at the world itself, but take it out on anyone who will put up with it and who can`t escape.

It's hard to be caught between your dad and mom. Sorry to hear you are in this position

Well, you can't change your dad - he is who he is and it is him that will want to change. But since he has been this way all of his life - most likely he will not.

You can change the way that you view the situation. I know you are feeling for your mom but she has already told you she is resigned to the situation and you know you can't change her either.

Just be there for your parents when they need you and let them live their own life.

The best thing for you to do is go out and live your life - be happy and if you don't like the way your dad is - don't get in to the same situation your mom has.

It sounds like my dad. He has adhd like me. He may have had a hard child hood and takes the anger out on people he loves. They should go to counseling.

he very well could have 2 personalities, but my dad's like that. we think hes bipolar, but my mom divorced him and we felt so much better after.

your father needs help. no doubt. mine is now on medication and he is SOOOOOOOOO MUCH BETTER.

it's hard, but get help. you need it, and waiting to get it is just more pain. cut your losses and get him some meds now! it's all for the best.