relationship help! a slump or just friends?

Definitely stick with him - if you know you are meant to be together, and the problem is just spicing things up, then don't worry. You just need to get some fun and romance back into things. =)

I'd suggest you two each cut up a piece of paper and write on the pieces things that you've always wanted to do that are fun and adventurous, and put them in a jar. They could be things like go in a hot air balloon or go to a theme park when it's raining and be alone on all the rides. Anything! Then put them in a jar and pick one out every weekend. You'll have something to look forward to and it will put some surprise back in things.

As for the sex, the jar idea could work there too. Write down things that you guys haven't tried in the bedroom (or outside the bedroom!) and pick one out once in a while. I'm not going to list any here, but use our imagination! If either of you is uncomfortable with anything that gets picked out, you can always choose another one.

If the problem is that you just aren't attracted to him at all anymore - Ask yourself why. Did he used to be more in shape? If so, maybe get a gym membership that you guys can use together. You were attracted to him once, you can get it back again!

Hope I helped!

Don't break up, but take a break.

You lost your attraction for him because you take him for granted, and he takes you for granted. He doesn't do the things that made you attracted to him anymore and you don't do the same for him either.

Take a break for 2 months, don't start any relationships and make sure he doesn't either. Both of you work to improve yourselves during that time. When you meet up again, you're attraction will have skyrocketed. After all, its not like your boyfriend turns into a wealthy muscular man who is a mystery to you overnight.

Spend some time apart, but be sure you BOTH stay out of new relationships unless you want to risk never getting back together again.

Have a night out on friday or saturday to cheer her up. pass to a movie teach or Restaraunt, or perhaps a rock stay overall performance. it would not could be fancy, just to cheer her up. If she meets somebody confirm she's no longer too trusting of them, there are ill people who could attempt to wreck her. If she would not that's wonderful, there's a lot of persons accessible and not all and sundry needs yet somebody else in there existence for all time.

4 years and your just now getting over the new relationship phase? After 4 years, if it hasn't taken the plunge into serious or even semi serious, then that is your problem.

You should dump him you're not married unless you are ready to settle down just move on. Unless you have a hard time meeting guys.