My dad always blames me?

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I'm 16 and I was visiting my dad, step mom, step sister, and half sister last week in Ohio. I dont get along with my step sister or step mom at all. Anyways, I was there for 6 days, and my dad had been ignoring me and treating me like crap all week (however anything my STEPsister wanted, he got her and he spoiled her rotten & payed a ton of attention to her....) 

Ok so I had left 3 nestle crunch bars on my desk in my room (they were 1/2 pound each) and a bag of hershey kisses on the desk. It was going to be for my plane ride home, and some of it was for my mom since crunch bars arent easy to find in Florida, where we live. My dad and stepmom also have a dog, who will eat anything, so I always make sure I keep my door closed. I had been miserable all week and my stepmom wouldnt stop .bitching at me, so I went to the city to go shopping with my cross country coach. (She is from Ohio, and was visiting her sister. She doesnt have any kids and isnt married yet, so she had a free day to herself and asked me if i wanted to meet her somewhere. We are pretty close) I made sure my door was closed, and left.
I got home and my dad starts screaming at me for not answering my cell phone (my stepmom took it away because my stepsister lied to her and got me in trouble.) Then he and my stepmom accused me of leaving my door wide open, and apparently the dog had gotten to my chocolate and eaten it all. I knew I closed my door, so I told them that Alexis (my stepsister, and she is 13) had probably gone into my room once I had left. My suitcase was wide open, and Alexis walked into the kitchen wearing MY shirt, so I know for a fact she went into my room and did not close the door. 

Both of them said that I was lying, and that the shirt was Alexis' to begin with, and that she didnt go in my room, and it was all my fault. I know for a fact she went in, took my shirt, and forgot to close the door. I got home to FL, and my dad called saying the dog had gotten very sick and it was my fault. I cant take him anymore. The dog never would have gotten to the food if my stepsister hadnt gone in my room. It was her fault, and I'm tired of him blaming me. 
He was only 17 when I was born, and my parents split when I was 4, but he still should treat me like his daughter, and he never does. My mom was only 16 when I was born, but she does absolutely everything for me and always puts me first. I'm their only child (well my dad has my 11 year old half sis to) but my mom is able to be a great mother to me, despite having me at such a young age, so for the few times I actually see my dad, why cant he just do the same? He is great with my half sister and step sister, so why is he so different with me?

Beck · Accepted Answer

2 sides to every story and it sounds to me like you are blaming everyone else instead of trying to fix the situation YOURSELF.  You don't like your step mom or step sister....you seem very unpleasant.

jramy.kiki · Answer

Next time he calls and tells you that everything is your fault even though you know for a fact that it is your step sisters then straight up tell him,  "Until you are willing and ready to treat me like i am your daughter and stop treating me like i am the worst thing that has ever happened in your life and taking everyone else's side but mine, then i am not going to be coming back for visits because life is too short to be treated like **** and i have many more things that i could be doing during that week.  I know for a fact that Alexis came in to my room and borrowed MY shirt and left the door open and i do not want to hear anymore about the dog and my chocolate that he got into.  Because FYI i am old enough and responsible enough to close my door before i leave but obviously you wouldn't know what would you and why is that?.....hmmmm........oh i remember it is because you never ******* see me. And until you start realizing that then i guess you won't see me.  Good-bye (insert dad's name here) until you learn to accept me as your daughter i will no longer be calling you dad."

Yeah he will hopefully feel really guilty and next time be alot more attentive to your needs.

Good Luck

Savannah · Answer

He definitely has some issues. He could be mad at himself for not being a good dad to you. So he acts all defensive. Or your stepmom puts pressure on him. She may not like you. So to favor her he treats you differently. I would not get upset about this, you just say calmly " i know I closed the door, if you want to think otherwise go ahead." Don't feed in to their negativity. 
So much for trust!" They obviously don't trust you to treat you that way. And that's horrible-not being able to trust your kid. You could have had a talk with your stepsister and tell her to fess up. 
Your dad needs to grow up. Can't your mom have a talk with him and tell him to start acting like a dad when you are with him?
Or just go right to the source and have a heart to heart with him. tell him how you feel. and how hurt you are. Good luck. I hope it all works out

? · Answer

Im sorry to hear that!!! I somewhat can relate to ur situation. It sounds like ur step-sister is a spoilt brat and gets away with everything.If you are getting all the love you need from your mom then theres no need to put up with crap like that with your father if he's not willing to meet you half way on a father daughter relationship.
Try sharing this with your mom and see what she has to say. Goodluck :)

. · Answer

Wow, he seems like a F*cken jerk if you ask me. And all your half sisters are bitches. Don't think you have to put up with them. Who says you have to visit him?

Anonymous · Answer

he's 'whipped' by his wife and goes along with everything she tells him, to keep peace.
but its horribly unfair to you kids.
your step mother is behind all the trouble

Anonymous · Answer

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