What should I say when people ask how my husband and I met?

I'd say "On the Jerry Springer Show!" That DOES sound messed up. You married your MOTHER's EX?

What's Christmas like at your house? I can't believe there aren't ANY hard feelings--I think your mother just does a good job hiding her opinions.

I'd tell the truth, if you don't want to say he's an "old family friend" or something. Yes, people ARE going to judge. You can't avoid that. Imagine what they will think when they find out you lied to them--they'll figure you ARE ashamed--and plainly, you are. And really, you should be.

The age difference is .... yucky, too. I give that marriage five years, tops. You'll probably not have to worry about explaining the guy for too long, I have a feeling you'll be leaving him before the geezer hits fifty five, never mind sixty.

I can't believe you did your mom like that--that's pretty low. Don't mean to hurt your feelings, but I could never do that to any member of my family--it's just Not Done!

It sounds messed up because it is. Truthfully if you have to "make something up" I would find there to be something wrong with your situation. If this relationship has been handled maturely by you and did not come about from a mid-life crisis on his part--Embrace the way you met. You were able to see first hand how responsible and caring of a person he is. He treats his ex's with respect but still makes sure they are just that.

First off, why do you need to make a believable story? If it is truly love between you it shouldn't matter how you two met but you have to admit it is very ODD. I mean you are your half-sisters step mom and even though you claim he wasn't your step-dad by law he was in regardless of where you grew up. I know they say love is blind but honestly, if you have to make up a story for fear of people judging you and shunning you, you need to think if this relationship is honest or just something of the moment.

First of all, you need to forget what others think as they are entitled to their opinion, right or wrong. If you two are genuinely happy then the rest really doesnt matter at all. There are many many things in life that defy explanation and none warrant having to explain their existence so tell them you that you two met and fell in love on a whirlwind romance and leave it at that. You oew no one any explanations and besides its really none of their business. Just love one another and best wishes

I wouldnt answer with that whole story..people will think you are weird, even if its all ok...

I'd go with, "through a family friend" - it's technically the truth assuming you are friends with your mother. Whatever you decide on though, I think the main thing is to keep the story consistent.

just laugh it off and say " Don't ask it,s a long story " or have you got an hour or two then I'll begin lol but the thing that gets me is that you are now your half sisters step mother !! as long s you both love each other tell them to not be nosey lol xx

just say "its complicated and I would really just leave it at that"

Lying to too many people will just get you a reputation and nobody will trust you. I think its quite odd myself... and I also think your denying yourself a normal life... when and if you have kids, they wont even be grown up when your husband needs old age care and he wont probably even be alive when they decide to get married and such. This is my problem with age differences, it denies the younger spouse a full life with the older spouse as well as their kids.

As well, I wouldnt want a man that slept with my mom... that is just gross to me... but to each his own.

I would say, we met thru mutual friends, which isn't a lie. Age difference varies in a lot of relationships, so I wouldn't worry about what people think about that. If people are going to judge you they aren't your friend anyway. But, I do understand your concern.

I'd just say, "Oh, we go way back. Known each other for years, but we didn't get together as a couple until recently." When all is said and done its nobody else's business how you met, so don't give them the ammunition to judge you with.

It is hard. Are you ready for this relationship? He is going to age a lot faster than you. Just tell people you fall for his qualities and then tell people why you like him. Or just said some family introduced him to you. If they keep asking, just tell them it is very embarassing and you don't want to talk about it.