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i'm 16 and really depressed...or idk whats wrong? help please! LONG.?
hello, im 16 and i cant quite figure out whats wrong, let me try to explain how i feel:
i always feel very very tired, i could go to sleep at 5 in the morning or 10 at night, wake up at 8 and still feel no difference. nothing is exciting to me anymore, i'd prefer to be alone then with people. i isolate from my family, friends, etc, just sit in a room and cry or sleep.
i usually have a extremely low self image, ive engaged in long periods of starving or vomiting food in hopes to look better even though im pretty petite. im constantly focused on how to look better or imagining if i looked like this although, i hate looking in mirrors. i have a low self worth but occasionally i get periods of like confidence/ cocky about how i look
last summer was really bad, i liked this guy a lot and would get really emotional over the smallest things, like if he didnt txt me for days, id cry, its all i could think about id even cut myself. then one day i found out he had a gf and was cheating on her with me, so i immediately stopped talking to him. by that point when his gf called me i already had this feeling that he was a "bad person" cause i assumed he was txting my friend behind my back. basically i went from liking him A LOT to hating him A LOTTTTTT. its been almost a year and i still can honestly say i hate him
i'll never forgive him, im iffy of people too, their motives, i either think your good or bad, no in between. i feel like they'll always abandon me.
i also have really bad anger issues, the smallest things will make me flip out resulting in verbal abuse especially to my parents. i cant necessarily control my anger at all, when i get mad i get extremely extremely mad.
i go into periods of depressions like for hours at a time then ill be okay, then etc. but i feel emotionally drained and empty, like no one understands me, i feel like i cant feel anything, nothing excites me.
i kind of have a subconscious fear that i'll never be successful to the point of what i dream off
im not sure whats wrong? please help! or try..thanks so much.
i forgot.. i have had suicidal thoughts or wondered what it would be like if i died as well.
6 Answers
- Anonymous1 decade agoFavorite Answer
I started to feel this same way around the time I turned 16. I had always been a confident cheerful kid who was into modeling and acting and all kinds of crazy things so it was very hard on me when my mind and body felt like it was working totally against me. Being a teenager, my family and my doctor chalked it up to me being a hormonal teenager, blah blah blah. Well I'm almost 24 and up until a few weeks ago, I STILL felt like this. I just so happened to get into a random conversation a few days after my latest MAJOR meltdown (I tried to kill myself... again. No joke) about birth control and the nasty side effects. I was DESPERATE to feel normal again so I immediately stopped taking the pill. That was about a month ago now and I can REALLY notice a change in myself, especially in the last 2 or so weeks. Once I thought about it, I realized that I started taking the pill when I was - you guessed it - 16. I'm not saying that it was the only cause of my issues, but there is no doubt in my mind that it was a major cause of my anxiety and severe depression. I have no idea if there is any sort of medication and/or hormonal substance that you began taking right around the time that you started feeling like this, but if you did - I'd suggest talking to your family and/or your doctor. INSIST that you believe it could be the cause - doctors don't seem to want to acknowledge harmful side effects of medications and such. Sad, but true.
- 1 decade ago
First off I think it's great that you recognize that there's a problem. Check out this site, it has some helpful insight. http://www.2knowmyself.com/
You know your problems, low self esteem, you don't trust anyone and have a temper problem. To fix this is takes a lot of strength and support. I don't think it's instant or immediate but here are some tips... if you really want to resolve it you MUST see a doctor and psychiatrist .... trust me it definitely can help, ask your school or parents to sign you up in secret...and don't think they are quacks, they are the people who you can talk to who won't judge you are treat you like your parents... seriously and don't tell ANYONE if your not comfortable with that!!!
I have a problem with people in general. I don't trust anyone, i'm always on guard, always thinking the worst of others even though sometimes they probably really do have good intentions. i know that I think this way because I have been hurt too many times by too many people. But I have learned to except the things I cannot change and change the things I can. You can't change the guy that cheated on you, and he caused you to have a traumatic experience...funny how you can go from being so happy to totally depressed in a split second when it comes to a guy isn't it. Here are some steps that I hope will help you:
1. Please go to the doctor immediately
2. Get yourself some self help books and read them!
3. Get yourself some good friends, you really only need one. (you need to get out and do something different to take your mind off your troubles, join a team at school)
4. Learn to forgive, realize that people really do mess up sometimes and we are all just human - FORGIVE HIM...AND LET HIM GO... HE'S YOUNG AND STUPID!
5. Realize that no one is perfect not you or me, or him.
6. Learn to let go... life is so much bigger than him or anyone who has hurt you.
7. Remember that you alone can make it better. Work to change your ways.
8. Try to get involved in doing community service... this may help you to see how important you are and how not everyone is out to hurt you.
9. Write a set of goals down for yourself and post them on your wall. Read them EVERY MORNING before you start your day and make a vow to yourself to carry them out, no matter what.
10. Get spiritual.. go to church or temple etc. read and watch inspiring books/shows.
Since you know you have an anger problem take control of yourself, no one can do it for you, be stronger and better than the next person and know that you can!!! Keep this in your mind as well... the angrier others can make you the happier they are. If this guy knows your pissed the happier he may be that he could make you unhappy over him. There are too many guys out there to let one rip you apart.
You can DEFINITELY be as successful as you dream. Hey those American Idols, the Micheal Jordans, etc... they all had a dream and made it. You can too! There's plenty of people with no dreams or aspirations you have it all! Your only fault would be to give up, so please don't. Smile.
DO NOT LISTEN TO ISAAC!
- 1 decade ago
It seems to me that you definitely suffering from an Anxiety disorder/depression. I would definitely speak to a professional with your issues. Maybe someone at your school like a counselor. I can relate to you very much even though I am a male. When you suffer from anxiety and depression which I battle with. Every single things means SOOO much to you and then a day later it doesnt mean anything. You act irrational and end up making extreme decisions when you it is completely unnecessary. First of all, you are not alone. Many many people go thru these times in their lives. You are also at a very sensitive age where you are still searching for yourself in this world. One thing that really helped me at your age was excersising and facing all of my insecurities head on. Remember, it takes just as much energy to be negative, as it takes to be happy. So choose happy. I know it is hard. If you seek professional help and they suggest an anti-depressant, try it, but only use it as a short term tool to help yourself. Pills are not a good solutution in my opinion. The side effects suck and its like putting a band aid on a HUGE cut. Also remember at your age, guys are NOT mature AT ALL. When I was 16 I wanted to just hook up with as many girls as possible and if you end up witha guy who wants to be in a relationship long term, chances are it will not work out because you are too young. Experience all that you can now so you can make better decisions as you get older. Keep your expectations for others, especially boys, low for now. Count more on yourself and your family if you can. Work on you, forget other people and what they think. And if your low self esteem is related to how you look. Hun, I cant tell you how many girls I run into that I knew at 16 yrs old that are ABSOLUTELY BEAUTIFUL NOW!!! The worst thing u can do in life is set unrealistic timeframes...life is long....embrace it....hope this helps you a little bit :)
- 1 decade ago
heyy:) im 17.
and when i was 13 i was diagnosed with sever depression.
so i kinda know what your going through.
things get hard.
first you need to forgive and forget.
dont live in the past, you cant and will never be able to change yestorday.
secondly just think to yourself: you only have one life, thiers no second chances.
LOVE yourself because if you dont, noone will.
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live. laugh. love < thats always a good saying.
you dont want to grow up and be like 'damn i wish i could go back and change how i usto be' because i garentee that you will if you dont change.
...
only you can change.
believe in yourself, be confident!
btw i got rid of my depression when i was 16 and iv never been happier.
because one day i woke up and said to myself, life is too short!
whats the point in been sad?
SMILE GIRL! :) if i can do it, you sure can. just have faith!
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