*****My Co-Star Likes me? Please help?*****?

I think I have and idea of who this is. Forgive me I was curious and I researched and clicked around and I think I've pinpointed who you are. I won't say anything though I would like to keep you like you are, anonymous. Anyway, I'm sorry for the fact you are faced with this predicament that could ultimately obliterate your career. Sorry again for saying that but that is the truth. Today we as people, annoying, conniving, practically bloodsucking people, feed off of this stuff. I know I practically described a leech (Or a Fred/Joker/Edward Cullen hybrid.) But really that's all we are. We're worms, annoying worms, practically parasitic. All of us. The only exception is you. You the Celebrity. Our prey! We love watching you on TV, hearing you on the radio, talking about you over via instant messenger, webcam, cellphone, etc. But we love, love, LOVE hearing crap about you. Mmmm... Just love it! Gossip. Yum yum! Anyway, all I could tell you is leave it be, I know all this senseless yapping to finally answer leave it be, but in all reality I think that's the best way. Stars get ruined by these scandals especially child stars. Vanessa Hudgens nude pictures ruined her image (*cough* twice.) to her audience. She gained a lot of hate for those photos (And a few fans, but I don't think you got the boobs for that.) Even though she was, I believe, 18 in those photos she was still an idol to children, you are too. Also this might mess up your co-stars career, and I believe even though what she did to you, you still care for her enough as a friend to protect her from this. I'm not so sure you should confront your co star about this either (Though its evident you will have to sooner or later.) Who knows she might twist things around and talk to the press and make it seem you spontaneously sucked her privates. And please don't say "She wouldn't do that!" because you yourself didn't know she was going to, well, spontaneously suck your privates. Man I'm only a couple years younger than you guys (15.) and I would never do anything that promiscuous, damn, I never even had my first kiss yet! Yiltch! That's creepy. Anyway if you need anymore help you could contact me on my AIM "itsikay", without the quotes. Good luck! Hopefully 2012 will get us before we ever hear news about a child star getting sucked dry by his costar.

-Neyaki

P.S. Sorry for the vulgarity. Ha. ^^;

That was long & winded. Though, I have to say for a person who is "underage" it is very well written.

There are 2 dating scenario's I'd never do:

1. Date a co-worker

2. Date someone from church

Both being for the same reason. When things are going well its great. However, when things go awry things have the potential to get really ugly. Rumors are spread and eventually someone leaves the company or church (or in your case tv show, contracts can be contested).

You actually don't state where this took place? (hallway, dressing room, etc).

Now really, if this was something that made you uncomfortable at the start of her kissing you, you are old enough to have said something to her right there. If you're not interested in her as anything more than a platonic friend, then you should have let her know that upfront. And, just because there's been a little time since this happened that doesn't mean you still can't.

You need to ask her to a private place. Make sure your face is serious and not flirty. Do not let her get to close to you. Tell her that you really like her, but that you've vowed to never date a coworker because you know how badly that could turn out. Tell her that you both should try really hard to just be friends and that she is beautiful and can get any guy she wants. If you make it seem like you like her too, she won't get as embarrassed or mad (or vengeful) when you tell her you have to just be friends.

Also, my guess for your identities is nathan cress and miranda cosgrove from iCarly. If I'm correct, you guys need to not ruin this show with a teen relationship that statistics say will definitely not work out. I know you don't like her back, but that's a thing you can say to help her understand.

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Ashlee, I don't think its mitchell and emily from hannah montana. I looked it up, they're both 18 and he said that she's 16 and he's a little older. However, miranda cosgrove is 16 and nathan cress is 17 so...

wow, i was just having fun guessing who it was with you. you don't have to be all defensive.

YOU ARE MITCHELL MUSSO!!!!!!!!!!! I KNEW IT!

I knew Emily (or maybe its Miley, she would) would do this....she seems like a girl who would get down and dirty with you in the Hannah Montana set. hahahah

Anyways for the advice: You need to get over it. It already happened, and even if you felt really uncomfortable, you must realize IT ALL READY HAPPENED. Just next time make it clear to her that you like her for different purposes (as a friend only). She will understand, and if anything she will still be your friend, so don't worry if you think you will hurt her feelings.

But seriously you need to make a promise to yourself that next time when you two are PRIVATELY ALONE, make it short and clear to her (in a polite way of course) that you like her as friend,the way it always has been, and that you felt a bit uncomfortable about the other day.

Don't bet yourself up about this seriously. I am sure you are not the only one. Also don't pretend like this never happened because it is going to come back to haunt you if you keep on ignoring it.

If you want this to continue, be very, very wary that things can go wrong, sometimes really quickly. Be mindful of the fact that this can get you into deep trouble, possibly worse than you can ever imagine.

However nothing more may come of all this, that's the trouble with life, you don't know what twists and turns can happen, good or bad.

If you don't want this to continue, you need to tell her firmly, that you are flattered, but you don't want it to continue. It might be considered "Sexual Harassment", or worse, by her if she keeps at you when you say "No".

Just remember, given recent news, scandals like this are jumped upon by the media, not necessarily to your liking.

<I redid the answer because the first draft was too late at night>

Sex is the most sacred part of the marriage bed, so championing the virginity of both is important. A man of integrity will confront her and will be ready for trouble he has caused.

Umm, sex NEVER builds or maintains a friendship. Its entirely self-focused and doesn't improve anyone.

Plus, those who engage in sex before marriage have a dissolution (breakup) rate 155% percent above the already high divorce rate of marriage (50%).

So you should confront her on this most atrocious deed and repent of giving way to lust.

You seem to desire integrity, so you may not need to speak to your parents. However, should she ignore you then getting them directly involved might give you both the privacy and freedom from this grave error.

Please do examine your thoughts and avoid porn of even the mind.

[One Surgeon by the name of 'Ducky' in NCIS said a very true statement: thee difference between a man of ethics and character is the ethical man knows its not good or wise to cheat on his wife. The moral man doesn't.]

You didn't say no because you lusted as well, just not as brave as she was.

A True friend is interested in the others welfare before their own and not their body or whether they are perfect.

Friends will be ready and willing to encourage, comfort, and admonish the other in love (key word) when needed because the friend seeks their betterment.

Thus a true friend will recognize friendship and trust is ALWAYS given. So the friend will treasure friendship as the wonderful gift it is with respect.

Again, one's virginity is the most sacred of all things. Treat the other with proper respect and don't be afraid to stand up to what is right in the sight of God. Be the real friend you are!

Hope this helps clear your head a little and makes doing the right thing easier.

(feel free to ask me other questions)

If you don't like her back . . . don't do anything about this. Talk to her about it, and make sure it doesn't get out. If it does, then it's going to be a lot more to deal with. The most important thing right now it that it doesn't escalate into a larger problem; however, there is no proof that this happened, (i'm assuming nobody witnessed this besides you and her), so if this does get out somehow, just . . . DENY EVERYTHING :).

You don't date co-stars.

That is a big-no-no.

Because if your relationship ends you're probably not going to be able to act with them as well anymore...

All i can say is thats it up to you.