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Why do some guys try to make the girl they like jealous?

It seems that some guys (and girls of course) will try to make a girl jealous for example by flirting with another girl. Im talking about in the first stages, when he isn't even going out with the girl that he likes (and maybe hasn't even told her how he feels) but it's quite clear that he likes her.

This whole thing of trying to make girls jealous, is tricky ground - if guys do it a little bit, it can be harmless. But it can get a bit out of hand and the girl may even start to think the guy isn't interested in her. Some people like the 'make him/her jealous' game and enjoy reacting to it by making the other person jealous too - but personally, I don't like it and I find it can be pathetic and if you're not the jealous type it backfires on the guy anyway, which is funny lol. I think it's all about the guy being insecure and wanting the girl's attention, which shows up his weaknesses...not much of a turn on lol.

I want to know:

why do guys do it?....do all guys do it or is it a certain type?........when they try to make the girl jealous do they genuinely believe that she will like him more and find him more desirable?

Girls and guys, what are your thoughts? Let me know....

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  • 1 decade ago
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    I agree with everyone else, it is basically to see your reaction, sort of like dipping their toe in the water. I don't think there is anything wrong with it, it can be a useful thing for yourself. I liked this guy and then he started texting and talking to my friend and I got so annoyed and then I realised how much I liked him and did something about it! So it can be useful. As for do all guys do it, I doubt it, but I reckon everyone does it to a certain degree, just to see how much you mean to that person, it could be just making a comment and seeing how they react.

    I don't think it makes them more desirable and I don't think they think that either. I think they are just testing you, and if you back off, it just shows you wasn't that into him and his plan worked.

    Source(s): Previous Experience
  • 5 years ago

    To the guys who think making a girl jealous works, here was how I dealt with it: the guy I was 'hanging out' with kept playing this game frequently when we would go out, all the signs were there he was interested because he didn't like it when I talked to other guys, and wanted to hang out together everyday, After this flirting thing kept going on I got tired of the games and took up an old boyfriends offer to go out, and guess who ended up at the same place we were? When he saw us together he had a look on his face like he took a wrong turn in a really bad neighborhood. Kept trying to follow us out and ask where I was going. Bottom line: This all could have been avoided if he just would have taken a chance and expressed his feelings. talk to us! Those initial actions tell a lot about you!

  • Anonymous
    5 years ago

    Why do women try to make guys jealous? Whats with the really general questions? Honestly, if a guy is trying to make you jealous more than likely you did something that hurt him and he's immature so he's trying to get back at you. Getting revenge helps them get over the heartbreak I suppose. Just like everything else in relationships though, this one goes both ways.

  • 7 years ago

    I have been thinking about this a lot as well, I am starting to think it is to know or try and find out if you are interested in them. See if you have some type of obvious reaction. But, for those of us that aren't the "Jealous type" It yes will backfire on them since they won't get the reaction they wanted therefore causing either party to lose interest. But causing the non jealous one to get hurt. Since they believe that the person whom is trying to make them jealous doesn't like them anymore or was never interested. Leading to the non jealous person to stop pursuing them or whatever. Which is how it would backfire. Seems like a lot of hurt for no reason. :/

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  • 1 decade ago

    I've never done it while I'm on a date, because that would be rude. But I occasionally use it when I first meet girls to weed out the weak. It's not about her attention; I already have that. I want a girl who will compete for me. The ones who don't generally aren't confident in themselves. Too much is too much, but a little bit of jealousy can go a long way in the early stages. Besides, haven't you ever suddenly realized that you like a guy only after you've seen that another girl is interested in him?

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    1 decade ago

    First of all its not just a guy thing plenty of girls do it aswell. I think its a very immature and desperate thing to do, and if a girl I liked flirted with another guy intentionally to make me jealous I would lose all respect for them. I agree with what you said the guy being insecure and wanting attention, and you're right about it not being a turn on. Its actually kind of sad.

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    5 years ago

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  • 1 decade ago

    Alright guys do this most of the time because they think that the girl they're currently dating is pretty enough to make the girl they truly like jealous. Most guys do this and sometimes girls may try as well. All guys think that this will make who they really want jealous if you see this happening to you dump them quick because they're going to try to dump you pretty soon if they're doing that.

  • 1 decade ago

    I personally see this as an insecurity. I sometimes do this to my friend, I try to talk to other friends to divert my attention away, from him. So all eyes are not on him and it makes it less obivious that I like him.

  • 4 years ago

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