should i give my ex money from the sale of my house we lived in?

Well you did both put in equal amounts into the house but there are a few things you need to take into consideration here. Was there a mortgage? Cause if there was only your name was on it. You assumed responsibility if something went wrong, then your butt was on the line. You were the one liable if you couldn't pay etc.

The value the carpet it's self lost it's value? Maybe if you were going to sell the carpet alone. I mean whether you like it or not the carpet adds value to the house. However, if he is breaking doors I am betting he also ruined the carpet. So if he ruined th carpet in the home I'd deduct that from whatever monies you would give him.

Also he broke 3 door and damage 3 door frames that were completely fine before he came along.

I'd also deduct that.

Should you give him something back ....yeah...I mean think of it as if you are the owner of the home renting out a room. Think of the money he invested as a deposit.

Whatever he damaged or ruined in the home whatever he did to the house to decrease value deduct from the amount.

That's the fair way to do it. By all means do not give him what he put in cause he damaged it just as much. Think of it this way had he not damaged it maybe you would of been able to sell the house for a higher market price.

Who put the money to buy the house? You stated to have both put in equal amounts of money into the house. But, if he didn't put a penny to buy the house (just paint carpet, etc.) than he should not be considered a co-owner of the property. As it seems that you are not in agreement and he is not an "easy" guy (basted down 3 doors, you are better off getting your answers with a local attorney in the State where the house is located. You can get free or very low consultation fee when getting a referral for a lawyer from your local bar association. For example, if the house is located in the State of New York, you can visit www.nysba.org and look for a referral. See link hereunder

Assuming your ex was a boyfriend and not a husband: What he paid was RENT. Unless your name is on the title you are not entitled to the sale proceeds.

Was what he paid comparable to what you would have been able to get in rent should you have taken on a platonic roommate? If yes, he gets nothing.

If he paid more than typical market value rent than you could offer him the difference if you feel you should ethically. Or give him the cost of the carpet minus the cost of new doors.

If you had lost money on the house would he be offering to pay half of that?????

If he's an ex-HUSBAND, that's a whole different ball of wax.

Roommates don't put down equal money into the house....they just pay for the rent for a room and to live there.

Roommates also do not put carpet in the house or pay to paint it. It sounds like although it was only in your name you both purchased it together and you are trying to screw him.

I suggest you work out how much he put into it, deduct any damages and send him a check for that amount.

ex-boyfriend I assume?

If you want to be completely fair, you should take his portion of the money contributed to the home and yours and use that to determine % of proceeds - profit after all things are paid like closing cost. You do not count interest paid, but portion of principle paid counts as well (e.g. who paid the mortgage and for how long?)

(If you paid closing cost then that counts as money you put into the home but it comes off profits so ultimately he pays for half of it and you get your half back.)

You then deduct the cost of repairs from the stuff he broke from the money owed to him.

Itemize it all out.

Paint & carpet is wear and tear and that should count towards the money he put into the home.

However, if you were not married and the house was only in his name then he's SoL.

The down payment he gave you could be construed as a 'gift'.

He could fight that though if he decides to get a lawyer and if they win you'll owe him according to the plan above and if it's determined he has rights to the home he can sue for court cost as well.

It's worth getting a free consult on this for your own interest and be certain to document anything you do, keep the stub from a cashiers check etc...

If it's ex-husband then regardless of who paid what half the home is his if the home was bought while married. What happens if it was bought prior to marriage depends on the state.

Hmmm...if he only put in paint and carpet, it doesn't sound like you put in equally. If he contributed toward half of the mortgage through your living arrangement, perhaps he's right. Otherwise, figure out how much the paint and carpet cost. Calculate depreciation and subtract the cost of three doors and fixing a hole in the wall. If it comes out positive, give him that. If it comes out negative, give him a bill.

Well when you say ex do you mean ex-husband or ex-bf? As far as the law is concerned there is a huge difference. If it's an ex-husband, depending on what state you're in, he can sue and will probably be awarded some of the money. Ex-bf, call the cops next time he asks for anything. See how simple that was? Good luck in your future.

Legally, you put equal amounts into the house, so deduct from his the cost of the damage he caused and give it to him or he may sue you for it.

Dont give him ****! When I had an apartment with my ex wife she damaged it so bad due to her drug use ( I was deployed at the time) she said I had to pay damages to it I was like HELL NO ***** LOL!! No dont get suckered in he and he alone needs to pay

you can divide that money equally, take some from his portion that needs to fix what he messed up then give him what is left over.. it is only fair to do that..

make copies and keep receipts of anything you do cause he could take you to court if you dont play fair