How to cope with a funeral?

First off, I am so sorry that you have lost your beloved grandfather. My heart and prayers go out for you and your family. Perhaps I can share this with you.

Three years ago, I lost my mother. I was in more agony and grief than I could stand. I did cry at her funeral and I cried at her graveside service. But you know what? I wasn't the only one. She was loved by so many. Funerals are hard to get through and anyone who has ever lost a loved one knows that. So stop focusing on the funeral and instead, play his favorite song several times over and over until you can get through it without breaking down. And even if you do, believe me, people will understand. You do not have to see your Grandpa in his casket or watch him lowered to his grave if it hurts too much to do so. You do not have to talk about him to people you barely know. Just explain to your parents what you think your limits might be. They can shield you and explain to whoever is performing the service, that you may have to excuse yourself at certain times. No one will think anything bad at all about your behavior.

Before the funeral, ask for some time alone with your grandpa, even if it just to sit in the same room near his closed casket, to talk with him and tell him goodbye in private.

In ten years, I have lost my brother, my father, my mother and my dearest friend. There is no reason to fear what might happen with your emotions at your dear Grandpa's funeral. Honor him with your tears and your violin and when you play, think of only the love you shared and let your heart feel peace for the last gift you are giving him.

It is ok to cry at funerals for people you loved. No one would think less of you and even if they did, who cares? You are brave and wonderful to play his favorite song on your violin. This will be very special for everyone. You don't have to talk to everyone there - just try to surround yourself with your friends or close family who are there. When people come up to you and say how sorry they are for your loss, just nod and say,"Thank you. We'll all miss him." I have seen grown men cry at funerals when they are talking or during the part when the minister/priest talks about personal or lovable qualities of the deceased. Just find your own comfort zone at the wake or funeral and don't worry about anyone else, except maybe your parents and siblings. Look away from scenes that you don't want to look at and don't feel bad about it. In the end, you may be able to deal with it much better than you expect. It will all get better with time. It doesn't mean you'll forget him, it just means it doesn't hurt as much.

Don't think of it as a funeral. Think of it as a memorial for an amazing man who influenced so many people in such a positive way. All those people are going to be there because he was a great man. When you are playing the violin, think about how much he enjoyed it (if he enjoyed the violin). Think of how proud he would be to have his granddaughter playing FOR him. He would be honored. And when you talk about him, think of all the people he touched. He wants you to speak of him in the highest regard with all of your heart.

I tried to word it in a way that you may speak it to yourself. I tried to make sure it made sense.

Sorry to hear about him. Best wishes, and good luck.

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im 16. my brother died of unoprible brain cancer on the brain stem.

it gets easier.

my brother was my best friend and my gaurdian.

i really miss him its been 9 months.

u just gotta know that ur not alone.

and that things will get better.get a diary and write in it.

it will make u feel sooo much better..

TRUST ME.

IT WILL GET BETTER.

u will see thing that will remind u of him.

but u just gotta remember hes watchin over u and doesnt want u to cry.

hes standing right next to u holding u wondering why ur crying if hes right there.

just remember that to.

its what helped me.

i promise it will be oky.

probably not very helpful but the irish focus on the memory of the persons life and remember them for the joyful times within their life and accept that death is only the last phase of life and it will happen to us all it wont take the sting out of personal greif and the public expression of that greif is nothing to be ashamed or embarassed by life is to short to be concerned with the thoughts of others say goodbye in your own way and be proud and grateful you were able to know him at all

Funerals are always hard and the best way to deal with your emotions are by tears. Don't feel embarrassed, he was your grandad and people will understand

Girls are allowed to cry at funerals.

the best way to cope is to remember of all the good times you had with him