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If this is worth saving and waiting? I really need help before I drive myself crazy.?

I started seeing this guy I met on Valentines day. He brought me a dozen red roses, took me to the movies and cuddled with me. Holding my hands, and putting his arms around me when I sat up to take my coat off. Then when my back started hurting he took my arm and wrapped it around him. He was very sweet and attentive to me. We went on a few more dates after that. Then we lost contact for about 2 wks, and when I finally got a phone I called him and he was very pleased to hear from me. He thought I gave up on him, and he couldn't remember my email and he didn't have a chance to save my number in his old phone ( which broke)

Now that we are talking again, we have been seeing each other, and everything was great. I told him I have been having strong feelings for him, and I wanted him to know that. He said that he was very happy that I told him, and that he was falling for me as well, but he wanted to go slow. A part of him wants to go slow because he never took the time to get to know his ex's and they didn't work out. So he wants to go slow with me. A part of him wants to jump right in with me, but that gets him into trouble, but he is torn between the two. he tells me he wants no one else, and that he isn't interested in dating anyone. That I am his dream girl. That he really cares about me, and sees this lasting a REALLY long time. Just wants to go slow.

The problem he is having is that he has a REALLY crazy job. He does Sound/Lights for concerts and events. Whomever hires his company they go out on location and set up stages, and stuff. He works crazy hours as well. He is worried that I would leave him, or get tired of waiting for him while he is at work. He feels like he would be a bad bf cause he would hardly be around me.

Then a week ago he almost got a few people hurt, and it really bothered him. He told me he wasn't ready yet for an emotional relationship because he had **** he wanted to deal with and get over. The other problem was that he wasn't sure on whether he should have waited to start something after the summer, cause he would hardly be around. But he still wants to get to know me, be with me, date me and only me. He feels like crap fro asking me to wait. He was telling me all this while he was crying his heart out. he drove an hour to pour his heart out to me.

I want to know if I should wait, tell him how I feel about this? Talk about what waiting means, and what is going on between us. Help.

He was kissing me one night and stopped to look at me and tell me " You scare me" . Then I tell him I love him and it's OK if he didn't say it back, I want him to when he is ready. he says to me " I am a little scared to say that back to you"

He has cried in front of me, and after telling me that he wasn't ready yet. He thought I would slam the door in his face, and never want to talk to him again. He still wants to talk and get to know me. he says he doesn't want to lose me because of this, and IF he wasn't interested in me, he would have told me.

My roomies says he is leading me on, and I shouldn't wait. I am an over thinker and saying negative things makes it worse.

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  • Doctor
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    I think you should wait.

    Obviously, he doesn't want you to leave and your room mates are obviously being really mean to him right now, telling you he is leading you on when they don't even know him!

    Relationships aren't easy, some many things come with them.

    No one realizes how much trouble a relationship is until they're actually in one.

    Sure it may seem great at first, but are you still going to feel that way when you realize you can no longer trust them or get in a fight with them?

    Are you still going to feel that way in the good times and the bad?

    Most likely, you aren't going to.

    But that's what makes a relationship so amazing.

    No matter how much you can hate that person, if it's true love, it will always work out.

    That's one of the major things I tell people when they ask me if they should give up, stop waiting, break up.

    This is a question for you to answer. Do you love him enough to wait for him?

    Waiting isn't a matter of time.

    And good things come upon those who wait, just don't die in the meantime.

    But in saying that, don't throw yourself onto other men.

    You seem to like this guy very much and I know how much it can be of a pain to wait for the one you love. I've kind of dealt with it before.

    My best friend had to wait for her crush to date her but he kept saying `Give me another day to think about it.` Eventually, she kept waiting, but he kept saying the same thing over and over again.

    He was just scared to get into a relationship but then ended up asking her enemy out.

    So she was kind of in pain during waiting because in the end, there was nothing to gain.

    But since you're already in a relationship, you should give this a chance.

    He seems his best to actually give his heart to you if he had to.

    Give it a couple of months honestly.

    If he actually starts to not pay attention to you, maybe it's time to break up.

    But if he's trying his best, you have to give him a chance.

    He sounds like he's working pretty hard, working crazy hours and working for sounds and lights for concerts.

    But remember. If he's not trying his best to pay attention to you...

    You shouldn't wait.

    Because opportunities are like sunrises.

    If you wait too long, you miss them. - William Arthur Ward

  • ?
    Lv 4
    4 years ago

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