how can i feel more comfortable around gay men?

How do you feel about yourself and your own sexuality? If you have homophobia you've internalized and focused towards yourself, you may feel uncomfortable with potential love interests or be projecting feelings you have towards yourself onto gay guys like yourself. Lesbians may not get the same reaction since you aren't interested in starting relationships with them and the idea of two women together is less repulsive than two men.

Another explanation could be that this is your natural, inborn gaydar coming to the surface. Every gay person is born with it, and each person has a different alarm system. Some people feel a buzzing or tingling sensation, and others just find themselves draw to those like them. Other people need only to glance upon a person to be able to tell if they are gay or not. This 'uncomfortable' feeling of weirdness could be your body's way of trying to alert you to their presence. For me, I smell tangerines whenever a gay is in close proximity. Of course, I wear a citrus body spray, so I may not be surrounded by them, as I like to think.

To try to get over this feeling, I'd try to find out exactly what your feelings are towards yourself as a gay man and towards gay men in general. Once you find out what you think, try to find out what makes you feel that way. You may want to find out where your local gay folk group up and meet, like regular meetings on a campus or in a gay bar, and visit for short amounts of time and try to strike up conversations with them. You may find yourself surprised at the wonderful people you'll meet that way. You'll find some gay friends in no time!

Well, the best advice I could give, is not to think about you dating them, or them liking you. Just try and think of them like friends... I don't know if this will help but... Have a nice day :-)