Do you suddenly feel taken back for being gay? in a bad way?

I know how you feel. Half of my highschool buddies are married..and I'm coming out gay. It can be..discouraging..I guess you could say. Oh well..that's life for you.

I actually sympathize for those who are already married/engaged/whatever and already have kids or are expecting. They've made their lives a lot harder than they have to be (at this young age). I feel like I am better off than they are because I am working on improving my future by going to college, whereas they, at least from my experience, are not in college and don't have a steady career (working at McDonald's is not a career). It's actually irresponsible for them to have kids when they can barely even support themselves and they likely will be a burden on their parents by needing external sources of income.

We're young. Don't worry about things like that - there's still PLENTY of time to find someone and being gay does not stop you from having a family (remember, a family does NOT necessarily entail biological origins - adopted children are just as much a part of a family as their adopted parents' offspring, right?). Just focus on yourself in the meantime!

I felt exactly this way. Like that everyone had left me behind.

I know how alone it can feel.

But what you dont know is how much is out there waiting for you. Sincerely I mean this, far more than you can possibly imagine.

Its taken me 40 years of life to just begin exploring the tip of the iceburg, of me, of us being gay. So many beliefs I once held, and so much more in facts that fly in the face of those beliefs.

YOU are not alone. Not by a long shot.

The truth about being gay is not what you think.

For me, it was like gun to the head, knife to the throat, you cannot be gay.

The real truth, though, if you're like me, and you finally discover it...when you believed so many other things,...its frankly mindblowing cause its so very different than what you once thought.

(pls read some of my own history, under "best answers" in my profile)

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time for you to do the same thing. Don't feel sorry for yourself.

GO get involved with a gay organization- you will meet other young people who have a decent heart and are willing to do for others.

Go get involved in a gay men's sports team.

Go get involverd with an AIDS org and help care for someone with AIDs if you want to feel sorry for yourself. That will clear your head.

Go get a life. Life is short and there is no time to sit and feel sorry for yourself. We don't get this chance again.

that sounds like it has little to do with the fact you are gay and more the fact that you are sad you haven't settled down yet. Just because you are gay doesn't mean you can't start a family. Or maybe you're using your sexuality as an excuse for not settling down yet.

yes i know exactly what you mean

but just because you are gay doesn't mean you can't settle down with someone or even have a family if thats what you want..

I know what you mean, most of my friends have boyfriend, and i'm all alone =(

Trust you'll find love and happiness, it will come. I know it's annoying to hear (i don't like it) but it makes things easier

No, relax everything happens in it's own time for everyone.

I feel fine