Please help me out here? Please?

Hi ,

Oh dear ! My heart goes out to you. I know what's you're going through because my mother is suffering from ( Rheumatoid ) for more than ten years now , which has similar symptoms as yours.

Some days i watch my mother struggling with pain in silence with tears all over her face . I just sit there with my hands tied up .

So i decided to do something about it . I surfed the net and read some books about how to cope with a chronic illness , and i found out some things that might help With coping .

~ first of all ,you have to accept your condition and educate yourself about its causes and affects.

~ Don't neglect your medication , they do relieve some of the pain.

~ A person with this illness needs to exercise as much as he can .This can be very challenging with all this pain.A walk or few minutes in a pool will make you feel tired, but also refreshed .

I used to take my mother for a ten-minutes walk.

~ Relax in a body of warm water . This helps because it makes your muscles in a state of relaxation.

~ Join a self-helping group if you have one. People who suffer from the same illness will be a support and can offer helpful advice too .

~ Plan your life as much as you can . If you have to go shopping , rest in advance , save your energy.Try to ask before going anywhere , will there be a quiet place so i can rest ? Is the seating going to be adequate for me? Will i have to walk for a long time ?

I use to put my mother in a wheel chair before going out sometimes .

~ Friends can be of great help for you , and so is your mother.

We cannot choose our parents . You may have chosen to keep the pain rather than to forgive her. The goal of forgiveness is to let go of the bottled up anger and frustration . If your mother is asking for forgiveness , accept it and give her a chance to help you , you need a mother right now.

~ Last but not least , pray a lot everyday . Have faith in God and ask Him to make you strong .

It is a really crappy illness, but you still can learn to cope and live with it.

I'll pray for you .

To help yourself, have hope and pray about your life. Know that God can help you live a better life. You can have a personal relationship with God by saying the prayer below. God is our Creator, all-knowing, all-powerful, eternal, holy, love. God loves us and sent us His Son, Jesus Christ, so we can go to heaven if we know and follow Him. Forever means without end -- time on and on without death. Forever is what happens after we die. Either we go to heaven and be with God forever, or we go to hell which is very bad and painful forever. The good people who are saved believers in Jesus Christ go to heaven. The bad people go to hell. We need to know and follow God in this world to get to heaven in the next world. We follow God by loving and obeying Him and loving others for Him. Jesus Christ, God's Son, is our bridge to God. Jesus died on the cross to cancel our sins. We need to accept Jesus into our life as our Lord and Savior forever to receive God's blessing and forgiveness plus go to heaven to be with God forever after we die. This is about being a born-again Christian. Faith in God is a gift from God. You can pray for faith in God. Just speak out and ask God for the faith to believe in Him and to follow Him. Some people find faith in God when they realize the beauty in the world is made by God. Evolution can't explain the world's natural beauty, for example, the parks in the world, animals, flowers, peacocks, sunsets, butterflies, rainbows, etc. After you have your faith on, you can pray a sinner's prayer to be a born-again Christian. This prayer is very important and should be said with a sincere heart and faith in God. This is the prayer: "Dear God, I know that I am a sinner and that Jesus Christ is the sacrifice for our sins. I have done the following sins (state these out) and I pray to discontinue these sins. I pray to receive Jesus Christ into my life as my Lord and Savior forever. In Jesus' name, amen." I'm Lutheran and I like the Baptist churches too. You could check out a Christian church youth group or Bible study group to learn about God's will for your life. You can pray to God about your daily life and have a Christian church pray for you.