Big girl problem, please help me out (posted this before)?

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we're both 17. we dated for a few months. i fell in love with her the moment i first kissed her forehead and held her in my arms, and told her everything will be alright when she fell ill. 

she is very hardworking. very very into her schoolwork, under lots of pressure. 
our relationship was short, but we had lots of fun together. i never told her that i loved her. i could feel that part of her loved me too. i showed her kindness, i bought little surprises for her, i wrote her a poem, flattered her at every chance... 
when we broke up, she said to me she couldnt hold a relationship in our school, but that she really wanted us to stay friends. she later wrote to me, saying "i'll miss you. i always will". 
a week after we broke up it was my birthday. she sent a card, saying "with love, forever and always". 
over the holidays, when we had to prepare for big exams, she was very stressed with work. foolishly, i finally told (by text... stupid, i know) her i was hopelessly, madly in love with her. i asked her if part of her felt the same. she replied "ezio, i dont have time for this, im so busy revising! .of course part of me feels the same but i would rather just focus on my schoolwork". i kept texting her for a few days, which was also v stupid cuz she never replied, because she was under loads of stress (the easter holidays are basically the revision holidays for kids here in england... very stressful and frustrating)...  i sent another text a few weeks later when the holidays were over, and she said "im really struggling here with work. i may see you after my stress with the exams. please stop texting me, i really cant handle it any more. please can we just be friends for now"

i know that the best thing to do now would be to let her get on with her life and her work, and then in the summer ask her out again. i love her more than anything in the world, and she couldnt understand why i was attracted to her (she once said to me "i dont understand why you ddnt choose some pretty blonde girl..."). she is insecure about her looks, and she doesnt get much attention from guys, but in my eyes, she is the most beautiful girl in the entire world. i even wrote a poem for her to tell her this. 

i know most of you will feel sad reading this, and tell me to move on. that is the one thing i can't do. sure, i could go out and find someone else... but ive tried that already. i love her. i'd say it a million different ways if i have to, write every love song or climb to every star in the sky for her... 

Im sorry if it sounds like im rambling... 

I was thinking I would send her a text message or something, telling her that I'm always here for her, and that I will wait for as long as it takes because I love her more than anything. Do you think I should do this?

Dilly · Accepted Answer

i think that's really sweet that you like her that much. But i have had a boyfriend that did the same thing to me. when i broke up with him he just kept texting me over over over. after a while it gets to the point that the girl doesn't WANT to talk to the guy. I think what you should do is tell her (in person, or on the phone) that you will Always ber there for her but that you are going to try to move on and will stop being sooo obsessed over her. trust me, no girl wants to have a guy stalking her. i hope this helps a lot
                             <3
                                    me

yankiesallthewayhome · Answer

okay so you say your 17 doing A levels i'm guessing? Of course they are majorly important if you want to go to uni get a decent job etc but life is too short and if you really love her don't give up, not yet. First both of you need to concentrate on your exams, get them over and done with... it's not long now just over 2 months then talk to her. If she feels the same way don't let anything stop you! 

While you're revising sure maybe send her a text but not all the time, every day, give her space because obviously this relationship is distracting her from studying. Just feel happy that she sent that text saying she feels the same way as you do & keep working hard.

Good luck!

Rhianna · Answer

i'm nearly crying reading this. you sound so lovely &she is making a mistake by not wanting to be with you, but i can understand as being under pressure with exams the last thing you need is a relationship. why don't you give her some time, wait until she speaks to you. then tell her that no matter how long she needs that you will always be there for her and you'll wait until she feels ready for a proper relationship. apart from that, writing her a poem?! wow, so cute. she's crazy if she doesn't love you. 
good luck:)

Anonymous · Answer

You are definitely datable! I, in fact am looking for a guy like you. the best thing about you is that you are close to God. Just like you I am shy and have never had a boyfriend (I am 19). But you have extremely good qualities, I do not know why you hae not had a girlfriend. I think you only need to break out of your shell a little bit, don't be so shy. The minute you break out of your shell I bet you will find a girlfriend. I hope you find some good advice, and a girlfriend! :)

LJ · Answer

I felt the same way about a guy but in the end I got over him. U deserve a relationship that the person will love u back. If u ment to be things will work out. Good luck :-)

soundplus13 · Answer

you have no clue what love is...  you are obsessed.  and she saw that and wanted out..  give her space.. grow up   and yes.. move on.. NEVER forget her and always remember how she made you feel..  but move on..   or soon she will get a restraining order out on you..

Anti2 · Answer

Lose weight. Problem solved.

The Love Guru Mort · Answer

Dump that zero and get with a hero.

Keji · Answer

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