Picking out your own engagement ring?

Its nice to make sure you love your ring, but shouldn't your husband to be have a pretty good idea about what you like? Plus, if you pick it out beforehand doesn't that ruin the surprise?

I know I chose to let my boyfriend pick out my engagement ring and he did an amazing job! I love my ring and I love my husband! Can't get any better than that! :)

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Many boyfriends like to pick out the ring as a surprise for their girlfriend. The trick is to understand the girlfriend’s taste. Sometimes this isn’t possible. In some cases the girl knows more about diamonds than the guy or the guy is too busy to look. He will just leave this in the hands of his girlfriend. The typical way is a surprise proposal and the guy picks out the ring. It’s important in that case to buy from a place that offers a 30 day review benefit. If the girl is not happy the guy can always return the ring and buy something else. My personal views, let the guy buy what he think he can afford and thinks the girl might like so that he can keep the surprise factor going! I would recommend "Window shopping" online with http://www.whiteflash.com./

Good luck!

I was quite surprised when I received my engagement ring!! Not at all what we had looked at-much nicer. I had NO idea I was getting that ring so in answer to the question- No, I didn't pick out my engagement ring. (And even though we are now divorced, I still have it and still love it).

i think its a great idea, and thats what we did. i dont wear jewellery, so there was no way he could just scope out what i like, and my taste in engagement rings is different to my taste in accessories. i couldnt give him hints because i wasnt exactly sure what i wanted. and he had terrible taste in jewellery (it has improved tenfold now). so, i told him i wanted to go with him to look at rings. we had already talked about marriage in detail a lot, so it wasnt a surprise, and it was a mutual decision to get engaged.

the ring that he would have bought if he went on his own was horrible! while we were waiting for the lady to bring out some rings for us to look at, he saw a picture of a chunky yellow gold ring that looked to me like something out of transformers. he liked it, and i said no way! he said he was glad i came because he would have bought that one. the ring we picked was a variation on one we saw and both loved straight away. we got it custom made so it was two-toned and had the diamond we picked out in it.

we also ended up saving $2500 because he wanted to buy me a bigger diamond, when i said that $5000 was plenty to spend on a ring, any more would be excessive.

so for us, this was the best option. i know some women want to have the ring be a surprise, but i would rather have a ring that i love and still, after being engaged for almost a year, cant stop looking at. besides, the experience made him love jewellery and has since bought me a $3000 diamond necklace (which he designed from scratch) and had started designing a set of earrings for me! his taste is gorgeous now.

My boyfriend was smart about it. A year into our relationship, we decided that we wanted to get engaged/married. We weren't ready for it yet, and wanted to give it at least another year. However, we had a conversation about the ring. He told me it would make him insanely nervous picking one out, and he wanted me to go with him so we could do it together. I wanted a surprise, and told him I would not, but I would give him guidelines that would make any engagement ring he bought perfect for me.

1) It would be yellow gold.

2) The main stone would NOT be a diamond. When he asked "what about solitaires?" I told him I would accept anything from him, but I would prefer the solitaire to be a colored gemstone.

4) I really didn't want any more than a carat of whatever he chose.

I ended up with a 1 carat round ruby ring in yellow gold with tiny diamond accents. :-) I got to be surprised and still get my dream ring. ^_^ Best of both worlds there.

That's fine. I think the woman who will wear the ring for the rest of her life should play at least some part in picking it out. She will be able to say what is comfortable, what is practical and what suits her style best, whereas as much as a man pays attention, he just can't achieve all these things when he selects the ring alone. When couples purchase the ring together there is usually large savings as well because the man feels he has to spend a lot of money to get a valuable ring, but the woman who will be wearing it knows otherwise.

We picked out my ring together, and I have to say, I'm glad I was involved and it was really fun, but left to his own devices, my FH never would have come up with what we came up with and he would have spent 10x as much. I'm glad to have that money for a downpayment on a house.

It's 2010, you can if you would like. Or, if you like surprises, tell him what you DON'T like.

For example, I've been with my fiance for 10 years, and engaged for quite some time, but he couldn't afford the ring he really wanted for me. He bought me a ring he could afford at the time. Years later, he wanted to buy me a new one, but wanted me to be happy, so what I did what made a printout of rings that I did like, and the ones I didn't like at all. He got a feel for what I liked, and bought me the ring of my dreams!

A simple diamond solitaire, and it wasn't very expensive either, because marriage is more important than how much you spend on a ring.

So this is kind of an idea of what you could do if you still want to be surprised.

It's whatever you prefer. On the one hand, it means he won't be able to surprise you with a ring he's picked out. On the other hand, it means you don't have to worry about him spending a ton of money on a ring that you may not like and then having to wear it for the rest of your life. You just have to decide which is more important to you.

I have very simple tastes so I told my then-boyfriend what I wanted: a round solitaire. I didn't see anything wrong with it, and it took pressure off of him (no searching for the "perfect" ring).

It's something the girl will be wearing for potentially the rest of her life - why not let her have some input? Most rings are bit of an investment, so there's no reason for the guy to pay all that money on a ring that a girl is only "ok" with.

I think it should be the woman who picks out the ring. After all, you know what you like best.

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I bought my now-wife a James Allen engagement ring and we both couldn't be happier. She simply LOVES the ring and I earned major brownie points :) BTW... she picked the ring out herself.

Good luck!