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Why do men chase to begin with - but when the woman starts showing interest, they back off?
I've had a few experiences like this and it seems to be becoming a repeated pattern.
It starts off with the guy coming on strong but because I don't know him well enough yet, I try & maintain some distance initially. But when I start thinking that he might be the one & show interest, he does a 180 degree turn! And this is very confusing.
Ps- I don't hold out for an unreasonably long time either - varies around a few weeks till I start to get to know him (or I think I do) before I start reciprocating.
Some insight/feedback on this would be much appreciated! Thanks :)
10 Answers
- justagirlLv 61 decade agoFavorite Answer
That has never happened to me, but honestly my husband got me pretty quick. I couldnt resist his Spanish charm. Maybe you should ask a close guy friend if its something you are doing. He would probably be able to give you better insight into this than we would. Unless you are sleeping with them after a couple weeks and then he is leaving. Then it might just be that you are putting off that vibe and getting taken advantage of inadvertently.
- 1 decade ago
I think a lot of these guys just like the chase. Once they find out your interested they go off to their next conquest. It's not about the relationship or for that matter you, its just kind of a game they like to play. This game helps boost their ego although its a childish game.
- ?Lv 51 decade ago
is easy. u were conquest only. once the battle is won, time to move on. the right one will stay, by the way, and usually, will "not come on strong". is a easy red flag when the guy comes on strong that is ur 'down there' let's say that he is after. but, dont lose hope, are still some good guys left.
- Southern ComfortLv 51 decade ago
It's because you wait to long. Guys talk with a lot of girls (not all at the same time, mostly once at a time), and it gets old "trying" to get a girl to like you. That's why we give up, and when we give up, the girl ironically always starts to like the guy back, but by then it's to late.
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- Anonymous5 years ago
Who knows. I heard that guys like the chase, but they've gotta stop running at some point!
- friendlyadviceLv 71 decade ago
Some guys just enjoy the challenge of the chase. Once you start to show interest, the challenge is over and the chase is complete. They move on to the next challenge.
- ?Lv 71 decade ago
Often times people who do that don't want a real commitment and they think you do, so they back off. And unfortunately for some people the thrill is in the pursuit. After they get the person and have them, it's no longer fun for them anymore. Again, they don't want a commitment.
- 1 decade ago
I believe its all about the chase....they love the the thrill of it...esecially if u show little interest...this is how men are...its a game for them.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
It may go back to the cave man days, when they were hunters? Who knows, but you are right.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
i guess you 'show interest' too strongly
and scare them off
