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britjayhawk0405 asked in PetsHorses · 1 decade ago

How would you go about this?

There is another girl who rides at my barn in the lesson before mine every week that is honestly a bit clueless about horse care. She has been riding quite some time and still needs help occasionally with tacking up, putting on wraps, knowing which tack/boots to use, when to give baths, etc. I am not certain if she just has never been really properly taught these things, and often am the one that helps her out before her lesson.

I recently found out that her dad is wanting to buy this girl her own horse, but I think she still has a lot to learn before she gets one.

I thought that maybe asking her if she would like to come to my house (she is a young adult, almost the same age as me, so that part isn't a big concern) every week or so and learn more about horse care with my horses. Would this be a good idea?

I wasn't sure how to ask about this however and phrase it in a way that makes it clear I want to help her out, but without insulting her?

Also, would it be improper to ask for compensation for these horse care 'lessons'? And again, how would I put that across without being rude?

I genuinely want to help this girl. She is very nice and seems like she wants to learn, but just needs a bit more help. I would hate to see her future horse suffer just because nobody ever took the time to teach her how to do things. I could also really use another source of money though, so I'd much prefer to get paid if I used my time and horses to do this.

How would you go about asking her?

Update:

It seems most of you feel how I do about the money. I'm very sure her family could afford it, but I didn't feel it was proper to offer help and then ask for money for it, so I wasn't really comfortable with that even if I need the money. I just had a couple other people tell me I should count it as a 'lesson' and charge her.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    Next time she needs help, you could go over and help her and just casually say "Do you want to come over to my house sometime and we can go over all the stuff you're confused about, and maybe do something else too?" Don't ask for compensation. If she says yes, then she says yes. You shouldn't need to be paid for being a good person.

  • ?
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    First off, genuinely wanting to help and then asking for money don't match up. It's like volunteering at a homeless shelter asking to be paid for it.

    Honestly, you could teach her while shes at the barn. Ask her if she thinks she's ready for the care a horse requires and when she seems confused about something, ask her which option would seem to be the best option and why.

    If she gets cranky that you seem to be bossing her about it, all you have to do is say that you've noticed she sometimes seems confused and you just want to make sure she can come to a stable conclusion about what is best for the horse and the lesson.

    Now, think about this, she and/or her family are already paying for her to take lessons, and if she/her family pays for her to have -extra- lessons at your place, with your horses, that would be a waste of their money.

    If you are really concerned about it, bring the subject up with the instructor and say that you have noticed that she doesn't always know 100% what she's doing and it makes you worry about the horses and suggest that the instructor help her with that.

  • Jo
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    We all have to start somewhere and at sometime.

    Her mistakes won't be fatal to the animal and probably won't even be uncomfortable.

    If you want to help and do a some horse care stuff, you can and have a good time.

    Under no circumstances are you to ask for money-she isn't asking for your help, so you can't ask for her money.

    You do seem to be just a little cocky about how much knowledge you have-chances are you still have a ton of learning to do also.

    If you just help her out and let a friendship bloom-you will probably both be better off for it.

    If you're going to ask her over-do just that-say nothing about wanting to teach her anything.

    Just see if she wants to come and visit your critters, let it flow naturally from there.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    i would ignore her but then a horse would be in danger! I say you should "Hey, wanna have a test to see if we are good horseman people"

    have questions like

    "What do your horse wear when jumping" and stuff like that and she may notice that she needs more expirence...maybe

    Thanks

    ~Big Blu~

    Oh and if u r not her friend dont be MEAN or mean

  • 1 decade ago

    i think its a good idea, but i dont think you shoud charge her.

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