Ramadan - I need your help - I got a Marriage Proposal.?

Never compromise religion for anything whether it be beauty or wealth.

Well, here is my advice.

Early marriage is recommended. Second, this is all naseeb and if Allah wants something to happen, it will happen for sure regardless whether everybody wants it or not.

Estikharah is a good solution, of course and you will insha Allah see from that where things will go.

You are 19 right now and when you get older you learn a lot more and you will be looking at your life from different perspectives (you will remember my words when you are older). So, if yu are in the same situation when you are 25, you would proabably have a different point of view. That is why estikharah and consulting people with experience are very important.

My advice is general because I don't know the exact situation and the surrounding conditions to be able to advise and everybody can have a different opinion. If your parents are religious, you can consider them as a source. Also, you can ask an Imam or someone.

Also, you need to know her type of person and whether she would be willng to accept the changes, etc. ... That is why it is important that you speak with the girl and know her. I agree with the arranged marriage, as long as parties talk with each other and know each other.

I wish you all the best. Amin

Marriage Proposal In Islam

Well if you know she is not a pious girl and a pious girl is your heart's desire, do you really think all the money her Dad has is going to make you happy? You would be miserable and so would she. You are from a culture much different than mine and I find it hard to understand marrying any girl you have not met or letting your Dad choose her for you, but I accept that is your way. So with that in mind I have to just say don't go into this marriage with the thought that you can change her and bring her to Allah. Yes, it is possible you might do that, but it is much more possible that you will never think her quite good enough, quite pious enough and she may be a very good wife to you and mother to your children but she will know in her heart that you find her lacking and you will never really be in her heart. Is that the way you want to live out your life. Find the pious girl you so desire. Talk to your father.

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Ramadan - I need your help - I got a Marriage Proposal.?

Assalamualikum my brothers and sisters

I have got a Marriage proposal and I am a little confused.

First things first -

The girl is not religious;

Neither is her Dad.

Her father used to deal in Loans, banks and Interests and that made him RICH

(He is the richest man in our locality)

However...

WSWRWB,

Well this is just my opinion as a Muslim but if you read in Surah an Nur, it talks about adulterers and how they can't marry anyone pious (because marriage partners have an affect on each other's eman). If you truly want to take care of your eman, be patient and wait for a pious girl to come. Allah loves those who are patient. I too am waiting for a pious spouse but Allah knows best. All these benefits that you mentioned seem only to be worldly (temporary) benefits, but remember this world is only temporary we should be focusing on the hereafter, that is what the Muttaqeen do!

Continue to make du'a, and istikhara and inshAllah the answer will come to you.

Here's a du'a that I always say when the thought of marriage/children come up: http://i68.photobucket.com/albums/i28/farihah786/D...

It seems as though everyone is giving you good advice, MashAllah but I hope you take my advice into consideration as well.

(An Nur: 3) "The adulterer does not marry except a [female] adulteress or polytheist, and none marries her [adulteress] except an adulterer or a polytheist, and that (Mushriks and adulterers) ha[ve] been made unlawful to the believers."

Volume 7, Book 62, Number 72:

Narrated Sahl:

A woman came to the Prophet,, and presented herself to him (for marriage). He said, "I am not in need of women these days." Then a man said, "O Allah's Apostle! Marry her to me." The Prophet asked him, "What have you got?" He said, "I have got nothing." The Prophet said, "Give her something, even an iron ring." He said, "I have got nothing." The Prophet asked (him), "How much of the Quran do you know (by heart)?" He said, "So much and so much." The Prophet said, "I have married her to you for what you know of the Quran." (Sahih Bukhari)

Allah knows best.

Walaykumsalam Brother Musab,

Just consider which beauty is of a greater importance, the beauty of

the face or the beauty of the soul. Perhaps she would change but you said your dream

is for a pious wife; what if she doesn't want to change?

Some beauties are everlasting and will always be a provision for you

even when the temporal beauty fades because:

"The whole world is a provision, and the best object of benefit of the world is the pious woman." - Prophet Muhammad (s).

Pray Istikhara, continuously. Perhaps there is great blessing here and

she will become the pious wife you hope for and if so, I hope that Allah will

bless you in union. If she is not good for your dunya or akhira

then I pray that Allah (swt) makes you steadfast and patient

whilst you wait to become a pair. Amin.

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As-Slaam brother in islam

you are a very good man, very religious and may Allah reward you for what you odo to please him.

i would encourage you to get to know her, yes it may be embarrassing as i would find it embarrassing myself but when you think about it is worth it to speak to her since it will be a decision that will possibly stick with you for the rest of your life. i don't think you should marry her only because you want to see how religious she is an if she is not and you end up divorcing her that will be really mean because Muslim men rather marry virgins so it will probably be really hard for her to marry again. You are still too young wait for the right girl to come or get to know her. But im sure if you marry her you will convert her into a better Muslim. the message of Islam is like magic is so powerfull.

i have been a Muslim all my life i prey everyday, occasionally read the Quran (English translation), fast and respect others and do what a good Muslim does but i never throughout about reading into my religion further. for instance i would have never been able to prove why my religion is the right one. my brother two years ago suddenly became even more religious and looked into our religion more and because he did he would make all these DVDs and we would watch lectures on the proof of islam and how to be even better muslims and really appreciating the miracles of Allah the almighty. i mean if you read the Quran very fluently to a bunch of people the message is so powerful that it will make people cry.

You would be better off marrying a not so pretty religious girl then a pretty not religious girl

i wish you all the very best brother

also on another note as you said that her farther would allow you to take over some of his work. if his work is associated with interest etc well that would be a sin to take over.

First thing you have to do it meet her so you can determing for yourself how pious she may or may not be. If she doesn't practie Islam or not much then I suggest not marrying her. Why? a) you would be spending the rest of your life with her and b) think of how the children my be raised. Non-religious mother typically means non-religious and badly influenced children.

I know waiting is never fun but don't just marry any girl just to get your hormones in check; that's just wrong. So you should a) pray to Allah for his guidance and to find you a pious wife and b) get to know the girl

Okay, I out this little bit as a disclaimer before you read my answer... I am not a troll... I am a muslim girl who respects all relgions, and loves her own. I am not meaning to come off rude here but I sure hope ou get my message nice and clear. Thumbs this down if you disagree, but please do not report this b/c I really do value this account and I am stating here I am not TRYING to be rude.

Ok.

So, a couple of things I really don't understand:

1. Why do your parents have to choose who you marry? Why is it arranged... it is not a part of Islam... rather cultural? Tell your parents you appreciate their concern, but you are going to be choosing your mate on your own terms... tell them you are looking for a pious girl.

2. What do you mean you cannot wait and do not want to sin? I am 19 years old, I will probably marry around 25.... 19 is MUCH MUCH MUCH too young.

3. I don't think you should be judging her if she is religious based upon her father's actions. I think you should get to know this girl before you marry her. Talk with her a bit... that is totally unfair that you cannot see the woman but you are forced to decide now.

4. Why is her family proposing to you? Usually the man proposes.

Take from what I have said what you will... but if you are strong in your faith, then you would have already drawn the line b/w religion and culture... and told your parents that YOU want to find the right girl.