BDSM - How do you know if you are a sub?

You can always try self-bondage. One of the best ways to do that is to use handcuffs. You have to make sure that the keyhole is down (where your fingers can reach it) and it's best to attach the key with a string so you can get to it and get out of them if you start to freak out. If you are afraid you'll be stuck in them forever, try something else like a chain with two loops at each end (your typical dog choker collar). You feed the chain through each loop and it's like a noose at each end that will hold your wrists but you can easily wiggle out of them because the noose expands to fist size. But, using metal (chain or handcuffs) makes it feel like the real thing. Tie your ankles, and your knees very tightly both above and below the knee, it helps if you're completely naked and you implant a vibrator first and then cuff yourself (hands behind your back) and if you have an orgasm before you freak out, well, you might be a sub. If you don't have an orgasm, well, you might not be. If your master knows what he is doing the pain won't hurt but, what it does do is release endorphins which is a powerful morphine like pain killer that the body produces naturally and that is also what is released when you have an orgasm. The concept is to have plenty of endorphins present in your system (hence the pain during foreplay) so that when you finally achieve orgasm, the abundance of endorphins present combined with those released during orgasm will catapult you into the absolute pinnacle of orgasmic bliss. I'm not a sub but, I've known many submissive women in my day and when it's done right, they tell me it's the most pleasure you will get from anything else you ever do. Much better than your first drug high. Now after reading this description, if your starting to get excited just thinking about it, then you might be a sub. If this description is disgusting to you, then you might not be. If it interests you however and you have a partner you can trust, it's usually worth the experimentation to see what happens. Don't try this with a stranger.

Well, do you prefer dishing it out, or taking it? ;-)

Seriously, though, you answered your own question when you said "I am constantly in control of myself and life and just wish that it was stripped away occasionally..."

That is THE classic point of view of a "sub," and it's precisely the reason that so many high-powered millionaire business executives go to dominatrixes and pay huge fees to be submissive to them.

Good luck!... ☺

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