How do I not react in Anger, when my boyfriend hurts my feelings?

Guys often don't understand that words 'physically' hurt us and that we do not turn on and off like a switch. You could try to change your response. This can be difficult and may require practice. If you can catch yourself before blowing up at him, simply say something like, "My feelings are very hurt." And then give him the silent treatment. You will have to explain it to him over and over, that women are often wounded by words. Guys just don't get it. Try to find new ways to make him understand; like that it feels similar to getting kicked in the cojones.

Good Luck

From what I know of being a tomboy and having almost all of my friends being guys. To a guy actions speak louder than words, so you are acting angry towards him, and he isn't listening to anything you're saying. I suggest if you want to show him you are hurt act hurt, and when he asks "what's wrong?" you go right ahead and tell him but not in an angry tone or he will think you are mad at him. Best way to do it I learned is through sadness, because when you are hurt you cry. Hope everything all works out! n_n

nothing wrong with expressing yourself, but you can't call foul when he responds to random ***** fits you have by simply being passive. what? you think you're allowed to get angry and he doesn't? that's utter crap. theres a difference between communicating your feelings, and simply whining prior to getting pissed because he's unable to be psychic and read your freaking thoughts as to why you're bothered. talk to him about it, make an effort to hear him out on why he gets mad, and both of you should try to mellow the temper out some. and remember ladies: its not men's responsibility to NOT piss you off, its YOUR responsibility to NOT get pissed off. accountability people.

I'm a guy, you have to explain feelings to a guy, even a sensitive one, you have to explain why your hurting, if its from a relationship issue, a family issue, or a simple physical issue you may be having.

try some calming exercises

eg breathe deeply and/or continuously count to 3 in your head and/or imagine something calm and soothing (eg you could think of the sea tides going in and out)

Next time he upsets you just go in the other room, I almost guarantee he will follow you and say sorry.

Some of us girls think we arent using our against them but we really are. Try to hear yourself in order to hear if you do or dont...Good Luck

you should tell him about your feelings,and if he is true to you,he will understand it and will not do such things again,and if he is just playing with you,then he would do it again and again

You just put it in your butt and let him pound the anger right outta you