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? asked in Family & RelationshipsFriends · 1 decade ago

Why Can't People Be Upfront If Something Is Bothering Them?

Say you've become friends with someone and you've conversed for several months, learning about each other, sharing life experiences, you have a lot in common, you laugh and have great long conversations practically every day. Then suddenly, without explanation that person just "cuts out" with no explanation whatsoever. Why can't people be straightforward enough to say what is on their mind, or what is bothering them? This is a male/female friendship btw, and seemed to be a very good one. Do people ever realize how much hurt they cause by treating other people this way, or do they even care???

Update:

This friendship is a "long distance" friendship, so it would be difficult to speak in person. We have often spent over 12 - 15 hours at a time online talking.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    I'm sure the other person does care. People (including me) have a hard time being confrontational. It's easier to back away from someone than it is to tell the other person what's bothering them. I think it's similar to telemarketers calling. It's much easier not to answer the phone than it is to say no to them. Since you are in a friendship where you frinend is of the opposiste sex, there is a possibility your friend is attracted to you and doesn't know how to tell you. My advice would be to go see your friend and be up front about how their behavior is upsetting you. Let them know that you would like them to be honest about why they're not talking to you. Good luck!

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