Can someone help me move on?

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Okay, so I am completely and utterly in love with a girl. I honestly can not say im happy unless I have her in my presence. I have known her for 4 years, and we have never dated. We used to spend most of our daily time with each other. People thought we were going out, even her father thought so. We were in love. I was always afraid to ask her out because I didn't want to ruin our friendship. The thing is that last year, I introduced her to my male best friend, which turned out to be the worst mistake of my life. Even though they have nothing in common, they were dating within two weeks. My perfect little world was now upon fire. Every time I see her with him, its like a million little termites eating away at my heart. In other words, it hurts. I got over this feeling for about a month, but recently, she has been inviting me to go with them everywhere. And as much as it hurts me to see them together, it hurts even more to say no to her. Now that I have been spending hours with her Again, I have fallen head over heals, Again. I can still tell she likes me more then just as a friend. What makes it worse is that he knows. He sees the way she looks at me, and how I look at her. We were made for each other. What else can we do. See the thing is I know that she wont break up with him, and I don't want her too. I just want to move on. Just to think of her as a friend. Can anyone help me with that?

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First of all let me say that I'm terribly sorry and that this is a very difficult situation you are in.

I probably can't help much, but let me give it a try. It seems like you and the girl are still best friends, so at least she hasn't started to actually dislike you or anything. That would make the situation a lot harder. I think that although it's hard for you to see her with him, you're better off (mentally) still going with the two of them. Maybe you should try to do stuff with one or the other of them at separate times sometimes without the other one. Anyway I doubt that will solve this problem. I think the best thing you can do is wait it out. If you've loved her for so long, I doubt you'll be able to just give up your emotions. Eventually, she and he might lose their romantic interest in each other and that would solve everything, though again, that may not happen for quite a while. I would suggest just opening your mind and not forcefully trying to let go of your feelings for her (that doesn't work, I've tried), but just be open to being attracted to others.

This is a really uncomfortable and depressing situation, I can tell. If you can't find a solution aside from waiting, I suggest finding some good music that isn't depressing and doesn't remind you of your predicament.

I hope I was some help, though I probably didn't do much if anything. Good luck and I hope everything works out for you <3~

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