When a person is so stubborn and argumentative about things that it only harms them, is that a personality dis?

..Yes I do believe this definitely is some form of various personality disorders, and possibly a more than just one..People who live like this are filled with so much selfish pride and self-loathing, they miss out on all the good stuff in life, because of their arrogance and internal need to always be right..No matter if they were raised this way or became this way over a series of negative events in their life, they still have made the choice to remain as they are..Pride is their down fall and they will more often than enough find their self in a place quite unfamiliar to them when others speak of introspection and/or self help/healing as well as mature communication as they are quite argumentative. In fact I know several people like this who believe mental health issues are utterly foolishness...Humility is a foreign word to them and they most always give off the appearance when around others that they are the most generous, kindest people in the world, which is hypocrisy at its best..They are so mental ill that it would take the rest of their lives, depending on their ages, to heal from all the heartache and pain they have pushed down inside themselves, and what they have also caused for countless others..It appears as though they may have no conscious but in fact it is covered with so much toxic shame & guilt, hatefulness, pride & arrogance, that to admit their wrongs or their shortcomings would feel not only quite foreign to them but it also would feel like the beginning of a mental breakdown or losing their self control, although in truth it would mean they would be finally on the road to a much healthier, much more peaceful and contented honest life..Crying, forgiveness, humility and true empathy is foreign to those who are this ill or dysfunctional...I worked very closely with a gal for many years who in fact was like this. She did change in some ways, but could never let go of the need to always feel that she was right. She is no longer here, and I realized later that she was in fact one of my greatest teachers in many ways...Hope this helps a little..Take care

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When a person is so stubborn and argumentative about things that it only harms them, is that a personality dis?

order? This person is over 30 and cuts his nose off to spite himself. Is this just a part of his personality, or is it a personality disorder?

Technically, when a negative pattern of behavior becomes excessive or too extreme, then it constitutes as a disorder. So basically anything so extreme that it needs intervention could constitute as a "personality disorder".

I think the term personality disorder is very dehumanizing. However, he has a personality and he is in disorder. He is stubborn, argumentative. But something inside of him has made him take things too far. I wouldn't say personality disorder, though, because that implies that his personality is void. I think there are underlying reasons for his extreme stubborness that go beyond having a personality disorder. I think the main problem is that he has low self-esteem, for whatever reason. Correct that, and he wouldn't go to such extremes.

I have my own theory about this, I think that it's a self-destructive tendency that steams from either shoddy confidence, some past tragedy, or a hundred other things that happen to us over the course of our lives that makes us who we are. This is my dad made over. I'm 30 and it hasn't gotten any better since I was 16 and moved out because of our inability to talk without his rage showing up. It hasn't gotten any easier to deal with either. It's just something that you have to learn to accept about this person and know that that's them and it's not a reflection on you and it's not because you didn't try. Sometimes we can only save ourselves.