Is my friend cutting me off?

Georgia, your "friend" cut you off a while back and I'm sorry you are unable to accept it. You've been asking this same question in a variety of ways for months now and the answer is still the same: if he wanted to talk to you and considered you a friend, you would know. You wouldn't be asking this question over and again, hoping for different answers than the obvious. Please, for your own sake, just move on and stop obsessing over someone who can't be bothered to care for you as you obviously do for him.

It doesn't sound like they're cutting you off. In fact it sounds like they're making those little comments to your forwards to make sure you know that. There could be personal reasons why that person doesn't want to talk to you at this time. Just keep sending the forwards and maybe send them a note now and then. I'm sure you'll hear from your friend eventually.

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In response to the one answer you received that said stop trying to contact them to keep your self-respect ... you should take that advice only if you think your friend is snubbing you or playing games. I guess I see your friend from another point of view ... maybe this person's having problems and doesn't want to talk about it right now? If you feel they're a real friend and worth the wait, then wait. If you don't , then don't :)

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Or there's another possibility. I'm currently in a similar situation, except I'm the one who won't write back. I've been online friends with this man for a few years. We didn't talk for close to a year, then recently started talking again. He was a very good friend at times. But then at other times he was very cruel. I haven't been writing him back right away, because I want the good friend back, yet I'm reluctant to open myself up again to the emotional pain he can cause.

But fortunately now there is a resolution to my conflict, courtesy of one of your responders.

To that responder (you know who you are): Someone who would think I would be mad/jealous over anything good that happens to them is no friend. The suggestion that I am the type of person who would do that is hurtful, there's your cruel side coming out again. I AM jealous ... but I'm jealous of her, not of your happiness. Though I wish her no ill will either, she seems very nice. I am actually happy for you, but also sad that I didn't have the same effect on you that she does. How can you possibly come to a conclusion like this when I gave you no indication of what I was thinking? How can I possibly be friends with you when you have such a low opinion of me?

When people move, they eventually drift apart. Sometimes the drifting away is mutual, sometimes it isn't.It doesn't mean they don't want to be friends anymore, but they are probably focusing on the friends that they see and interact more with. This has happened to me both ways, and if a friend doesn't write back to the same degree as me, I just stop writing as often and maybe send a note once or twice a year to keep in touch. So don't get your feelings hurt, keep writing if you want, but don't expect anything in return. Also do you mainly send those junk e-mails? If so, I can tell you that gets annoying. I have a friend who moved away and only sends those and she sends them a lot. I've reached the point that I don't even open them anymore.

I'm sorry to have to give this answer but it truly does sound as if you have grown apart from your friends point of view and no longer have any desire to stay in contact. By replying at all to forwards and emails like that they are showing there is no hard feelings but also no more to say. I'm sure you have other friends, see them, have fun - and be philosophical about it and don't let it bother you - you aren't a bad person to know i'm sure, just long distance friendships, like relationships, have to have something very very special about them to make it worthwhile.

Here's a thought: could you call them on the phone & see how they are over the phone? If they sound dismissive over the phone, then maybe you could say, "Joe, I feel like we aren't as close any more as we used to be. What can we do to change that?" (or something along those lines) & see what their response is. OR, if you can't call, send an e-mail saying the same thing, that you feel you aren't as close any more, etc. If they don't answer that question, then it does seem they are not nterested in being close friends any more.

Good luck to you. I have a similar situation BUT thankfully for me, the situation is resolved & my friend is talking as much as she used to. She's a very jealous person & I think she stops e-mailing me for a while when she is mad/jealous over something good that might have happened to me. Then she gets over it & starts acting more normal.

It happens a lot with online friends. Usually people chat a lot for a while because they have a new friend but then they lose interest because they don't see the person. Out of sight = Out of mind.

It happens to a lot of people. Try getting a phone number and talk to them instead of just emails if you want to get closer to the person.

To keep my self-respect I would stop trying to contact this person and just wait. For years if necessary. He has other things going on in his life and you simply aren't part of it. You are wasting your life waiting and hoping. (You must have asked this 20 times, right?)

I don't know about being cut off, but it clearly looks like you are on the back burner. Distance can cool a friendship. You sem to be appreciated for the humor pieces,but that is about it. Don't feel bad, this happens.

For some reason this friend is no longer able to be honest with you. Sounds like they are running away.

Ask them. If this friendship is important to you, call or email to ask them about it. Otherwise you will never know.