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Advice for dealing with a pushy Christian friend....?
I have this old hs friend that is being awfully pushy with her Christian ideals toward my younger sister. I haven't been on my FB in a while so while checking things out, I decided to skip over to my sisters page and check her out- say hey- whatever. She used to be very active on her FB but now nothing for like 2 months. Literally like every 4 days or so, my old hs friend is leaving her Bible quotes. There are comments from her saying that she is praying for my sister, and that she hopes that she will get her act together soon and find the Lord. (and btw she's not a bad kid) There is nothing but these types of comments on my sisters page anymore. I think she's abandoned it to get away from it all. Now don't get me wrong here, I'm not bashing Christians or anything. I just don't see why an adult woman needs to badger a teenager repeatedly with Bible quotes.
Does anyone know of an appropriate way for me to address this with her? Let her know that I don't really appreciate her smothering my sister in this manner? Any advice about how to maturely address this situation will be appreciated.
8 Answers
- usagiluvLv 41 decade agoFavorite Answer
Talk to your sister about it. Find out if this woman is actually being pushy or if your sister doesn't mind. I personally don't like people pushing their views, but a lot of them believe they're doing good. Spreading the word of the Lord is what they're taught to do. You don't have to be a bad person. May be your sister said something to suggest she'd be interested in christianity? Not on purpose. If your sister doesn't like it, have HER explain to this woman she isn't interested. It has to come from her. If it comes from you it's just 3rd party. Be there with her when she types it out or have her email it to you before she sends it.
May be something along the lines of......Thank you for the kind words you've been leaving on my facebook. I know that you mean well when you send it. I'm not a christian/religious, I don't hold the same beliefs as you. If I do choose to become christian or religious I want to make that choice on my own. If some day down the line I want spiritual advice I know I can ask you. But I will come to you. I don't want to be rude, but the amount of bible versus on my page is too much. I would like to ask if you could no longer post them in my facebook page/email/ whatever. I know that since you are a kind person you will respect my choice. Thank you.
Word is up however you like. I've found that being rude or making it seem like they're idiots will only get them worked up more. If you speak nice, tell them you appreciate it, but it's not needed at this time. They usually back off. This gives them hope they got their point across and you'll contact them again one day.
If she persists, then send her another message or email, that you're disappointed she hasn't respected you and your decision. If she continues to pester you will have no choice but to cut off all contact. If she still goes on, do it. Don't monkey around.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
No, please don't address this issue with the woman just yet. Talk to your sister first - tell her you checked in to see how she was doing and were surprised to see all the messges from your old friend. Try to get a dialogue going with your sister and see what the situation really is. If your sister indicates she could use your help in this matter, then the two of you can decide on a course of action.
I am a Christian, but I didn't see anything in your post to indicate you were bashing anyone. You're her sister and want to make sure everything is okay with her and that she's not being harrassed.
- Anonymous5 years ago
Sounds like a Born-Again, ughhh there's nothing worse than a pushy nasty over assertive born again. Tell her you've converted to Islam and start quoting the Qur'an.
- ?Lv 71 decade ago
Why do YOU need to address this with the woman? Just tell your sister to ignor it and to block that person, and then forget it. Pushy religious zealots are everywhere.
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- Anonymous1 decade ago
If she is persistent with the mails, then you might need to direct with her then delete her from contacting the both of you. Then ignore her. Let your sister know your intentions. It is wrong to push your beliefs on someone else. She should know better, she is a knowing adult.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
Just tell her to stop proselytizing; she needs to keep her religion to herself and accord your sister the same respect. It is better to attract people to God by living your life in a tolerant, respectful manner, by example; this woman is driving people away from, rather that toward, God.
- 1 decade ago
Ignore Her- & tell your little Sister not to take her too seriously either. These kinds of people are EVERYWHERE, & of all Faiths... -And the SOONER your Little Sister knows how to Handle Them- the happier you BOTH will Be... :)
- Anonymous1 decade ago
tell your sis to block the pushy christian. then she can enjoy FB again with her real friends