My 16 year old brother tryed to kill himself?

Its normal to feel a mixture of emotions when someone you care about has tried to kill themselves. Anger is one of those as is guilt, etc.

He probably hasnt apologised because he didnt think there was anything wrong with doing it. When you are in a suicidal state its hard not to see why people wouldnt want to kill themselves, so maybe he feels like this? Im not sure because I dont know the reasons why he did it or anything but its a possibilty.

But you have to remember he didnt do this to hurt you. And maybe he does feel guilty but just doesnt show it. I know I did after I attempted. Once I realised how much it had hurt everyone I felt terrible. But the thing is that when you are caught up in the idea of suicide you dont think about other people. All you think about is escaping the pain you are in.

I cant really say much more because as I said I dont know the reasons surrounding the events. But just try to stay strong for your brother, he is obviously in great amounts of pain to attempt in the first place. In a way it is good if he doesnt feel guilty because the guilt could just make him worse if its depression or something. People often show little signs of mental illness as they try to keep it bottled up.

It might be a good idea for you to speak to someone too such as a therapist to help you deal with all the emotions you are experiencing. I understand it must be a tough time for you.

Mail me if you need more help. :)

I honestly know what you are going through - my mum tried to kill herself earlier this year by taking an overdose. It's months later, and i still haven't gotten over it, there isn't a day when i don't think about it. My dad and brother don't seem to be any different and some days i feel like screaming at them, becase this has happened, but they're not any different! It's so scary, but they're fine, which itself seems unfair, but then you have to deal with school and everything else in life as well.

My mum has changed too since it happened, its like she is the child and i am the grown up. She's more quiet and withdrawn. It's more the little things, not massive things which blare out at you.

One thing which is different is my mum said she was sorry, and to think if she wasn't is just heartbreaking. For you it must be like he isn't sorry he was stopped. Here all i can say is to keep trying to get through to him. You say you feel angry - and i know you must do - so maybe show him that if you haven't before. Maybe thats the trigger which might get him to open up?

I always knew my mum suffered from depression, but i never thought it was this bad, and so it was a big shock for all this to happen. Maybe its a thing about depression then - that they're also very good at hiding things. Whatever you think, just don't blame yourself, its probably something tramatic that happened to him.

Maybe there is someone you can talk to about all this - i talk to my best friend, and bellieve me it really helps. Just to know that you're not alone and you can pour out all your fears to a person.

please reply back to me if you want i honestly don't mind as it seems we're going through at least some of the same stuff. Don't even think about listen to the completely stupid idiots who first reply to you, this is big, and in no way are you just looking for attention.

I really hope it turns out okay xxx

First of all, you're not being over dramatic or seeking attention. It isn't normal to know that your brother tried killing himself, he is your brother, your own flesh and blood. If anyone is okay, I think they have a problem if they could just ignore it like that. Don't blame him for ruining your relationship with him, attempting suicide is very serious. It's not his fault that he wanted to end his life, he might be very frustrated and depressed, don't be angry with him. He might have been going through alot more than he can handle and thought dying was the best possible choice, which it never is. Aren't you glad he's still alive? If you wanted to, you can always try to make things better with him before the accident. You can still have him back if you wanted to. You can't blame him and be upset with him, you're his sister, be understanding and try to make things better for him. Talk to him, plan going places and try to make it better. Who's to say he won't try to commit suicide again, be his friend, keep an eye out on him, get to know why he did the things he did. You're just a caring sister, keep being one. Tell him that you're there for him, good luck.

That's terrible, and it's natural that you are upset about it. You could be forgiven for having a sense of shock about this and feeling that he is not the same brother any more is all part of that. You're still on alert because you could have lost your brother, and maybe you're still very worried that there is a possibility that he could still remove himself permanently from your company. His suicide attempt left you feeling betrayed that he could leave you, perhaps without confiding in you how bad he was feeling. It is nevertheless your brother who has suffered the most, and if you can find it in your heart to forgive him and try to be supportive so that you can rebuild your relationship, you will both find a good deal of value in that in years to come. Good luck.

im very sorry about what u r going through depression is a hard thing on the person that's depressed and the ones who love them i had very bad depression to the point that i didn't want to live any more and when u feel like that u dont think about your love ones or yourself at that time u just want the sadness to go away. your brother is probably ashamed and embarrassed about what he did and wants to just forget about it. maybe you should tell him how much u love him and that u will be there for him if he needs u and tell him u were hurt that he tried to end his life because u love him

Don't listen to the horrible people who are answering. They have no idea what it feels like, only you know that.

I think it's normal what you're feeling. Other people in your family are probably feeling the same way, but are hiding it. You need to talk to somebody about how you're feeling otherwise it will eat you up inside. Can you talk to another family member (parents, sister, aunt, uncle, cousin etc.)? Or even talking to your brother might help, as long as you don't get angry with him. Try to understand how he must be feeling, if he wanted to kill himself. Explain to him that you love him and that you're there for him and hopefully your relationship with him will improve.

You need to talk to him because he probably hasn't even thought about the affect on others. Be gentle with him though because you don't want to send him back to the place he was in when he did it. Ask him if understands how upset you all were and tell him that you love him. He must be deeply depressed and when you are, you are unable to see what others are feeling. Your anger is probably really confusion and hurt and you need to express it. If he won't talk to you, find someone else to talk to, such as a school counsellor.

It takes a lot of courage to reach out for help like you did. It sounds like you have been feeling angry with your brother which is very normal. Talk to a school counselor or counselor in your community about your feelings. Counselors can help with all types of problems and offer support. Is your brother getting professional help?

You can contact the Boys Town National Hotline if you need further help. Please encourage your brother to call our hotline if he needs help. We are available 24/7.

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I kind of know what your going through because my brother tried to kill himself 3 times he is perfectly fine now as well my brother did it because of family problems so your brother mite of done it because of some problems and you and your family mite not of known about any of this if it helps try talking to him about what was going on in his head at the time when i did this and then after this you mite find it easier .

its not youre fault.. ive tryed killing my self ended up in hospital and psychiatric wards.. my parents didnt realise i was depressed till i was sectioned the first time.. i was always happy.. i used to hid how i felt from everyone.. one of my friends did notice though.. having everything doesnt make you happy.. you cant know everything every problem your brother had.. im not sure what made your brother try to kill himself.. but hes still alive you can talk to him now and he can get the help he badly needs..im not sure why he needs to apologise.. maybe you feel guilty for not realising he but you cant undo what he did but you can move on from it.. remember hes still alive.. have you talked to your brother about this? i think you need to sit down with him and talk to him or write down what youve written here.. and give it to him.. or phone him up?

i hope you can move on from this..