Why does he want to keep the relationship a secret?

It's only been a few days. Give it some time. If he feels the same in a few months, then he is nothing but a player and you should move on.

I'm sorry but you are over-reacting. Dating 'just a few days' does not mean a committed relationship and lets tell the world. What is wrong with wait and see for a few months? Is it the boy you are interested in - or just letting the world know that you have one? I cannot see why it is so important to make this statement! Enjoy learning about each other ... enjoy dating and being together - and let the rest take care of itself. The time will come when he wants to tell the world he loves you. Be patient.

You're not overreacting. You're lookin' out for yourself (which you should)!

I read on an MSN cover article that a dating rule is "Let HIM decide when to post your relationship [on FaceBook"]... but that is when you're dating!

You said you are IN a relationship already. If this guy can decide for himself, and tell a woman (you) that he wants to be with you, and you both KNOW you're in a relationship, I smell some nasty dogsh-t on the bottom of someone's shoe!

From one woman to another: there could be hundreds of reasons why he wants to keep it a secret--and most of the possibilities are not good! But bottom line, this is ON HIM so don't feel too bad because the problem didn't start because of you... And do you want to be with a guy that is not as sure as you (you definitely seem like it)?? I think this is a crappy, shady first relationship impression. Honestly, I'd feel such a temptation to stick around and find out about him because you fell for him already, but with all I've learned this past year, I'd kick it to the curb PRONTO!!

"I don't know to go publicly official until I feel we are stable and 6-7 months have passed."

.............wtf? it even sounds weird

fortunately i think he is a smart man and you are over reacting.,.. though they are healthy thoughts, so no worries. men and woman think different in a case like this. weather he is ashamed of you or he's protecting himself then let him be. just be with him, cause if he asked you to be his gf than he does genuinely like you. he's not looking for better he wants to make sure your going to stay around so hee doesn't get asked a million questions when things go awry. give it 2 months and if your still good and happy he'll start to loosen up and crack open his shell of solitude. just let him do it at his pace. and be there for him :) it'll be 4-5 months before you know it and than is when the final decision will be made if it's right.

"A few days now"? Really? Why should he update his FB status when you guys have barely been going out? Get over it. He'll do it when he feels comfortable with it. Not changing your status isn't "keeping it a secret" and really, it's not a relationship, it's a few days hanging out. I highly doubt he'd go 6 months without telling anyone.. you're probably exaggerating. But seriously, get to know each other before you expect him to parade you around like a prize. Do you really need male approval that bad to feel good about yourself?

you're a jerk for telling her that... and still hanging out with those friends. She deserves someone better that will make her feel good about herself and be proud of her, not someone that makes her feel less than. Just my .02

he might be embarrassed of you. i would consider all the scenarios and then decide if you could last 6 or 7 months as a secret.

1. He is a player and has other women on leashes which he does not want to know about you or....

2. He is embarrassed of you and doesn't want to be seen with you sad i know but it does happen, although im leaning more towards 1

It's a very big deal. You should be with someone who is proud to be your boyfriend. Dont bother with him it sounds like he is waiting to see if he can get anyone better, and you don't deserve that.

He could be married, engaged or have another girlfriend that he doesn't want her to know about you. Any time guys want to hide you, it is from another woman. Dump the cheating creep.